Talk to Strangers: How Everyday, Random Encounters Can Expand Your Business, Career, Income, and Life

Contents

 

Acknowledgments

 

Guide to Charts, Tables, and Lists

 

Introduction

 

Section I: Creating Your Future Through the People You Haven’t Even Met . . . Yet

 

Chapter 1: The Untapped Potential in Your Everyday Encounters

 

Chapter at a Glance

 

Chapter 2: New Faces in New Places

 

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Chapter 3: Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

 

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Chapter 4: Schmooze or Lose

 

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Chapter 5: The Limits of Online Connections

 

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Chapter 6: When Traditional Networking Is Not Working

 

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Chapter 7: Face It: Nothing Beats the Chemistry of In-Person Communication

 

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Chapter 8: Anonymity—A Random Connector’s Greatest Advantage

 

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Chapter 9: We’re All Connected

 

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Chapter 10: The Four Beliefs of Successful Random Connectors

 

1. The World Is a Friendly Place

 

2. Everyone Can Be Met

 

3. Almost Everyone You Meet Can Enhance Your Life in Some Way

 

4. You Can Enhance the Life of Everyone You Meet

 

Chapter at a Glance

 

Section II: Turning Random Encounters Into Mutually Beneficial Relationships

 

Chapter 11: Find Clues to Initiate Conversation

 

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Chapter 12: Avoid Judging People From a Distance

 

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Chapter 13: Don’t be Overeager

 

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Chapter 14: Seize the Moment

 

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Chapter 15: Get on Their Wavelength

 

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Chapter 16: The Importance of Authenticity and Curiosity

 

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Chapter 17: Focus on Your New Connection

 

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Chapter 18: Discover the Buried Treasure

 

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Chapter 19: Leave No Stone Unturned

 

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Chapter 20: Be Clear on Your Own Value Proposition

 

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Chapter 21: Position Yourself as an Expert

 

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Chapter 22: If Nothing There, Catch and (Respectfully) Release

 

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Section III: Leveraging the Connection

 

Chapter 23: Map the Road to Opportunity

 

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Chapter 24: Build Your Momentum and Credibility With a Follow-up

 

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Chapter 25: From Unplanned Meeting to Monetized Connection: A Case Study

 

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Chapter 26: Create a Basis for Continued Contact

 

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Chapter 27: Add Velocity to the Relationship

 

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Chapter 28: Success—Desired Leverage Achieved!

 

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Chapter 29: Be Google-ready

 

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Section IV: Gender-Neutral Random Connecting

 

Section V: Mastery Insights and the Talk to Strangers Mastery Program

 

Conclusion

 

Index

 

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Acknowledgments

 

How can one ever thank everyone who has helped him or her be successful with work when there are
so
many who contribute, both directly and indirectly? I remember awhile back encountering an artist in a park who was painting a beautiful landscape scene of the trees and benches. I stopped, admired the painting, commented on how pretty it was, and then asked him how long it took him to paint that scene. “Twenty two years,” he said, explaining that it took that long to develop and refine the skill, and therefore, to create beautiful works of art. Of course, I stayed in touch and he became a friend; and yes, I bought art from him over the years.

 

But his original point always stuck with me—whatever we’re doing now is a cumulative result of everyone who has ever influenced us. I personally would have to thank everyone I ever met in a random encounter for giving me the benefit of the doubt, and even those who didn’t, for they forced me to sharpen my random connecting skills. Beyond that, my thanks go first to friend and colleague Walt Kuenstler, who insisted I make that phone call and then tell my story and whose unwavering enthusiasm and encouragement were instrumental in motivating me to write—and continue writing—this book. I have to acknowledge my parents, from whom I learned social versatility, a skill that undoubtedly accounts for my inclination to talk to just about everyone I come across.

 

To the fine folks at Wiley I offer my great appreciation—first and foremost, Lauren Murphy, who “got it” right off the bat and moved the proposal quickly and successfully through the process, not to mention, was always gladly there for me with answers and assistance; Christine Moore, for her ever-positive, cheery disposition, as well as great copy points; Deborah Schindlar, who so competently turned my words into a book; and Peter Knox, for his marketing insights. Thanks to Gretchen Kelly, proposal writer extraordinaire, and my agent, Katharine Sands, who helped me learn the ropes without having to fall too far. To my wide circle of friends, colleagues, and associates, I offer my thanks for their ongoing interest and support. And finally, to my life mate Deborah, who encouraged, supported, and guided me from the very inception of the book and whose patience and creativity made the entire process so much easier and the outcome so much better than it would have been otherwise—and who, you guessed it, I met in a luggage store at the mall.

 

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