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arthritis, and even cancer. You can feel extremely tired, sensitive to any type of stress, and

overwhelmed. Your emotional body is your defense system against many illnesses.

You cannot truly let go of your emotions unless you fully feel them and utilize your

breath, intention, and possibly touch to release them. There are many wonderful tech-

niques that encourage you to tap, massage, affirm, visualize, move with, delete, hum,

listen to sounds, and pull out negative emotions from your body. Having been gifted

with the capacity to see into the body, I have noticed that when people try to let go of

their emotions without feeling the fullness of their feeling, they often cut the feeling

and suppress it in their body. This in turn creates a tear or a scar in their emotional

body, which is extremely sensitive.

It is very important to allow your emotions to come to the surface. This can be

done by taking deep breaths, connecting to a particular memory, placing your hand on

your body where you feel an emotion, listening to music, or saying a releasing statement

aloud. Once the emotion has been fully acknowledged, meaning you have felt it as

deeply as possible, you will experience a release of built up energy. You may even cry

and shake or laugh, but it will feel like you are being freed. This is a great time to tap or

massage either the point of your body which feels uncomfortable or various points that

relate to the issue you are working on. You can then move, shake dance, or simply sit or

lie down to allow your body to complete the process. The most important thing is to

listen to your body and go with it.

When you read this, please keep in mind that everyone is different, and the best

way to heal any challenge is to find a way that resonates with you.

Healing involves looking at your whole life and becoming conscious of what does

not work and changing it. This may include transforming your point of view, starting to

meditate, dealing with unresolved emotional issues, taking supplements, changing your

diet, letting go of destructive relationships, changing jobs, and so forth.

Depending on what the physical problem is, you may also need to take medication

or have surgery. Even if you have done everything right and surgery is recommended,

you should consider it. Certain people may feel that taking medication or having

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surgery is a failure, but I don’t agree. I believe in having a balanced point of view and

doing your research. The idea is to be flexible and give yourself the best chance of sur-

vival and the highest quality of life, while still participating in your own healing. It is

safe to practice healing processes even if you are on medication, as long as you listen to

your body and don’t overdo anything.

Medication, surgery, and even a miracle healing is largely there to buy you time so

that you can discover and work on the real cause of your physical challenge and change

your lifestyle. If you don’t, you are highly likely to re-create the illness, as even if doctors

can cut out a malignant tumor, they cannot cut energy, which travels through your body

to the next weakest link.

The biggest misconception that humanity has been taught about healing and med-

ical treatments is that most of them have to be tough, violent, and painful. It is

generally considered that illness or imbalance in the body is an enemy and that we

must attack it in order to destroy it. An important key to healing is perceiving the body

as a friend, listening to, understanding, and treating it with gentleness, love, and respect.

I believe that the new way of healing is through softness, awareness, and compassion

rather than aggression, condemnation, and punishment. As we learn to treat ourselves

better, we will also experience a huge change in how we treat each other, our society,

and the world.

Scientific Support for Self-Healing

If you need scientific evidence in order to believe that your thoughts, emotions, and

behavior can contribute to your illness or health, you can find many studies on the

internet and in medical journals which show that, for instance, the risk of developing

heart disease is significantly increased for people who impulsively vent their anger, as

well as for those who tend to repress angry feelings.5

In a groundbreaking study of 1,200 people at high risk of poor health, it was dis-

covered that those who learned to alter unhealthy mental and emotional attitudes

through self-regulation training were more than four times more likely to be alive thir-

teen years later than an equal-sized control group.6

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In an article which appeared in a Journal of Advancement in Medicine, researchers

discovered that heart-focused, sincere, positive feeling states boost the immune system,

while negative emotions may suppress the immune response for up to six hours follow-

ing an emotional experience.7

Candace Pert, former chief of the Section on Brain Biochemistry of the Clinical

Neuroscience Branch at the National Institute of Mental Health and bestselling author

of
Molecules of Emotions
writes, “I’ve come to believe that virtually all illness, if not psy-

chosomatic in foundation, has a definite psychosomatic component.8 In my talks, I

show how the molecules of emotions run every system in our body, and how this com-

munication system is in effect a demonstration of the bodymind’s intelligence, an

intelligence wise enough to seek wellness, and one that can potentially keep us healthy

and disease free without the modern high-tech medical intervention we now rely on.”9

Trish’s Story: The Body Is the Best Pharmacy

Below is a copy of an email Trish sent me, sharing how she used the

processes from my book,
The Secret Language of Your Body
, to heal herself.

“I have been suffering from lower back pain for years, trying everything,

but nothing worked for very long. My back started to get worse, and I was

on pain killers every four hours for a couple of weeks. I would have a week

of no pain, and it would all start again.

I had a scan, and they found a little bit of arthritis in my spine. At this

stage, I was desperate, as the medication was damaging my digestive sys-

tem. I felt depressed and frustrated, being in constant pain, and I felt so old,

always waking up stiff.

I am forty-five years old and the mother of two young boys, so I really

wanted to be pain free and flexible. I tried the processes in
The Secret Lan-

guage of Your Body
and released a lot of stuck emotions.

The next day, my pain was gone! It was that quick. I have actually

started to do squats and sit ups, something I would have never attempted

before because of my troublesome hips and back. And I have had no back

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pain with my menstruation, which I always dreaded when it was that time

of the month. It has been like this now for many months. I don’t wake up

stiff, and I have saved a lot of money on therapy.”

I asked what Trish specifically worked on, and she shared that on the

physical level, she did the processes related to the hips and buttocks from

The Secret Language of Your Body
. On the emotional level, she worked on

resentment and forgiveness. Although Trish’s healing was very quick, I sug-

gest that for best results you regularly work with the emotional release

process at the end of this chapter.

Your Body’s Innate Intelligence

Deepak Chopra, M.D. in his book
Quantum Healing
states, “The frustrating reality, as

far as medical researchers are concerned, is that we already know that the living body is

the best pharmacy ever devised. It produces diuretics, painkillers, tranquilizers, sleeping

pills, antibiotics, and indeed everything manufactured by the drug companies, but it

makes them much, much better. The dosage is always right and given on time; side

effects are minimal or nonexistent; and the directions for using the drug are included in

the drug itself, as part of its built-in intelligence.”10

The reason the above statement may not seem true to most people is because they

have not been taught how to tune in to their body and communicate with it in an effec-

tive way that allows it to access its own healing potential.

Our opportunity is to discover how to access the body’s innate intelligence to heal

ourselves while using medicine when it is appropriate. I have worked with and led

workshops with doctors who practice integrative medicine. Whenever I have tuned

into a client and felt that there could be a possibility of a serious problem, I have always

encouraged them to go and get tests and consult their doctor, as I believe there is a

place for medicine and self-healing—as the former can save lives and often be

extremely helpful short term and, at times, long term, especially when people have no

understanding of how to illicit healing experiences from their own body or simply don’t

have enough energy to heal themselves. However, since so many drugs have very

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unpleasant side effects, learning how to heal yourself should no longer be a luxury for

the chosen few but is a necessity for all!

Patrick Quanten MD writes, “Illnesses are not the result of a vicious attack by an

outside aggressor but are internal imbalances. Bugs appear in diseased tissues from

within the tissues itself, as has been demonstrated in laboratory conditions. There are

no mysterious viruses that travel vast distances or lie dormant for decades before

‘attacking’ the innocent victim. Illness has not so much to do with ‘out there’ as it has

with ‘in here’. It is an internal affair and should therefore be treated as one. What is

required is a shift in thinking. We need to stop blaming outside factors for internal

problems. We need to regard the whole rather than the parts as the essence of life.”11

Emotional healing requires you to tune in and become aware of unresolved emo-

tions that are stuck in your body, recognize them, feel them, and let them go. When an

emotion or experience that has created charge and limitation in your life is

transformed, you will feel lighter, look softer, and allow new, more empowering oppor-

tunities to come into your life. Your body will also have access to new healing and

revitalizing energy that can help you restore your body to better health.

To experience emotional healing, you need to make a commitment to succeed and

take responsibility for your actions and reactions. Taking responsibility does not mean

blaming yourself for being unwell; on the contrary, it means discovering what decisions

you made that did not work, changing your perspective, and moving forward. Take a

moment now to think about a difficult time in your life and ask,
What have I learned?

What would I do differently?

Healing yourself by learning to tune in to your body, emotions, and spirit, gives you an

opportunity to forgive yourself and others, let go of past hurts, clear blocks and awaken

aspects of yourself that you were unaware of. It puts you in the driver’s seat and allows

for self-discovery. When taking a healing approach, I encourage you to view your body

as an intelligent force, which, if guided correctly, has the power to regenerate.

Healing does not only affect physical well-being, it can also enhance relationships,

help you find your life purpose, increase finances, expand spiritual awareness, and bring

peace, fulfillment, and confidence to your life.

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Changing Your Thoughts and Emotions

I have spent many years researching how thoughts and emotions affect the body and

how to best deal with them. From my experience, the body will follow your

instructions. If you constantly say that you can’t handle things, your hands may become

stiff and clenched, and you won’t be able to handle anything new. If you consistently

say, for example, “My boss is a pain in the neck,” you may manifest neck problems.

When you think, Oh, what a headache this will be, your body listens. Because it is good

at taking direction, it immediately starts building tension in your head, so that you can

feel your head ache.

Dr. Robin Youngson, founder of the Centre for Compassion in Healthcare says,

“Livid, pissed off, torn up inside, heartache, bone weary, jaundiced, gut wrenching,