The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want (5 page)

  I am interesting.

  I am a success in all that I do.

  I can attract any woman I want.

  I know my purpose.

  I am confident in who I am.

  I am cool, calm, and collected.

  I am charismatic.

  My world and my life are attractive and interesting.

  People meet me and want to know me.

  I am interested in other people.

  I meet fun, positive people.

How you act is not determined by just your beliefs; it’s also impacted by your “state,” or your feelings of resourcefulness and power. Have you ever been “in the zone”? Maybe it was at your job, or it might have been with women. Regardless of the specific situation, you felt like you could do anything you wanted and it would just work: that’s what being “in state” or “in the zone” is all about. When you’re out of state, out of the zone, you struggle to do the things that you can easily do when you’re empowered. When I was improving my life with women, being out of state really frustrated me. To counter that frustration, I developed a technique for rapidly putting myself in the zone—that is, triggering that frame of mind where I feel like I can conquer the world.

Here’s how to do it:

Got your affirmations from before? Great. Now pick out a handful of songs that have extremely positive associations for you—songs that really get you going. Start playing those songs loudly and really get into them, allowing yourself to experience a strong, positive emotional state. Then, once you’ve got that positive emotion coursing through your body, begin definitively saying your affirmations. At the same time, snap your fingers and get your body moving to generate some energy.

After you’ve repeated this little ritual five to seven times, the music, the affirmations, and the emotions will all begin to associate with one another. Then, when you want to feel confident and in the zone, all you need to do is say an affirmation or two, snap your fingers, or listen to one the songs you chose for your state-building exercise—and voilà: you’re there.

State Control Toolkit

  Small MP3 player for taking your music (and recorded affirmations) anywhere.