The Strip Club Dating Survival Guide (20 page)

MAKE
THE
MOVE

Still, sharing a certain amount of privacy, in a quieter, more intimate setting, is not only entertaining in its own right, but beneficial to your game. Taking a stripper somewhere more private, where you can talk without shouting across a table, where she can lean back against you or sit in your lap, where the lighting is dim, and it’s just the two of you, can create the moment you need to move the relationship forward.

Additionally, most clubs won’t bother interrupting a dancer who is settled into a private area. This means that she won’t be called to stage, or for
stage walks
 (known as
cattle calls or showcases
) or anything else. As long as you’re ponying up the cash, you can mostly keep her all to yourself. Getting down on a private performance is essentially like buying your dancer out of the usual obligation to work the showroom floor, or perform on the stage. For her, this means that you are paying for her to relax a bit while
still getting paid.

For your purposes, however, the standard lap-grinding dance area will not do. Most clubs these days have some sort of extra personal dance room available, often referred to as a
Champagne Room or VIP Suite
. Whereas the usual dance areas have a set price per song, these VIP dance areas will typically have their own distinct pricing which you’ll have to discover at the club you frequent prior to ever deciding to bounce there with a dancer.

PRICE
POINTS

A common method to charge for these areas involves a two-step price structure. First, you gain access to the area by making a minimum drink purchase, usually a bottle of Champagne or sparkling wine, hence the name, Champagne Room. This purchase affords you the use of the area for a preset block of time; buying a Champagne room in an hour or half-hour blocks is common. 

Some clubs do it this way but without a strict time limit, by simply choosing to send a waitress back to harass you every so often. This ensures a steady stream of expensive alcohol purchases during your stay, and if you taper off or stop altogether, they’ll ask you to return to your normal seating.

The second step in the process is paying the entertainer for her time with you. Some clubs will designate a fixed amount that must be paid to the dancer that will accompany you, keyed to the time you wish to spend in the VIP room with her. In this case, using a suite or Champagne room can be little more than an upgraded variation on the traditional private dance area.

Other clubs will only insist on the minimum drink purchases, allowing the dancers to set their own prices with their customers. Letting the girls set their own prices on the top end VIP dances is the way that it is handled in most large clubs with well established, financially stable customer bases. Especially since it’s easy to administer and tends to be attractive to the strippers that benefit. Low end clubs will often package the whole deal (booze, use of the area, dancer fee) into a single price point; $200 per half hour, for example.

In the event that the club you are visiting does not serve alcohol, you will usually find that the upgraded suites are offered at a set price that includes both the cost of the dancer, and the use of the room included. These upgraded dance areas serve to add a level of intimacy with your target stripper, and create opportunities to come across with more money for her. While I’m sure that the concept of enhanced privacy probably sounds Ok to you, the idea that you would be purposefully looking for a chance to spend more money is probably
less attractive
.

Be that as it may, you do need this opportunity to pay her more, regardless of how stupid that might sound. Paying out in a bigger way rewards your girl, justifying her continued investment in your burgeoning connection without worrying that the electricity in her crappy apartment is going to get shut off. 

Further, pulling a dancer from the immediate demands of the showroom by paying off the club is a clear proof of your value as a
poisitve make presence
.
The fact that you are doing this while putting money into her hands as well only serves further to reinforce the point.

While you clearly want to pay girls for their time in the club, you can’t become some kind of lame slave who always seeks to make his mistress happy with gifts of money. Your method of paying dancers will have a measured,
strategic pacing
 if you follow the advice in this book. While this works to keep the stripper at your table generally content, and preserves your bankroll, it may sometimes be less conspicuous or convincing than you may wish.

Nonetheless, you shouldn’t suddenly break character just to impress the girl with an extra bit of money, especially if you’re doing it because some guy with more cash is competing for her attention. What you need is a legitimate excuse for handing over the extra scratch that won’t create a counterproductive sense of entitlement within the heart of your intended stripper-girl.

SAFE
HAVEN

Taking your girl down on a private suite or Champagne room creates just such a justification while removing her from the competitive environment you share with other customers. Better yet is the fact that getting your target alone in VIP gives you the chance to spend some real quality time in an intimate setting. While there, you will have effectively isolated her from work demands, friends, other customers, her competitors, and direct disturbance from club staff. This is the time for your girl to get totally
focused on you
, and to be free of interference

This doesn’t mean that things have to get all down-and-dirty in the VIP though. The rules about dancing with your girl still apply here; generally speaking, don’t do it. The whole point of bringing her into the private room is not to enable groping her ass or making some kind of creepy blowjob request. You are simply moving to a
venue 
that allows for privacy, conversation and comfort building.

You don’t want to spend inordinate amounts of time here, just make the trip every so often so that you can justify the higher payout, and get some one-to-one time. Quite often when you are out in the main showroom area, your dancer will have some sort of public persona she is projecting, but if you have been working her correctly, she will now have the opportunity to ease back on the throttle with that, if not drop it altogether.

Getting dancer-girl to back off on her stripper bullshit, and start acting in a more relaxed, natural fashion is a primary goal for you here. You surely need to get her to be herself; relaxed, open, and free to make a genuine connection.
Everything
you do out on the showroom floor and at stage side is actually just preparation for time spent alone in VIP. 

When you walk into this place with her on your arm, you should feel the relief radiate out from her; you are safe, a good investment of her time, pleasant to be around, and all the meetings up to this point have piqued her curiosity towards you. She'll know that moving to an intimate location will serve as a break for her, and your current track record is an indication that the experience will most likely be agreeable, at least comparable to what she is forced to deal with usually.

Take care as you make this move not to allow a break in character, and start acting like a drunken pervert. Keep everything polite, civil and courteous to whatever extent possible as you settle in. If there is a cocktail server waiting on you, remain generous and respectful with them as they handle your needs; your dancer will always be watching. 

Also, pay attention to personal effects, and articles of clothing (like a jacket) to make sure they are secure, out of the way, and unobtrusive. Take whatever time is required, for you and your dancer, to get set comfortably before declaring game-on.

At some point, your girl will either make a move to dance for you, or at least ask if you’re ready to begin. You need to decline…politely and
just for now
. Ask instead if she’d be willing to hang out for a while, perhaps taking some time to talk for real now that you are in a better location. Most dancers will have no problem with this request, happy to sit with you while sharing drinks, and the privacy afforded by the dance area.

Don’t forget that your mission with this girl is
not
about getting overpriced dances, but is ultimately intended to bring her over into your life, and your bed at some point. You can’t go into this worried that if you don’t get something in the VIP, that you are somehow wasting your money. 

You just have to let that go for now, releasing any concern over the eventual outcome, choosing to focus your energy on the things about this girl that you truly like, the ways in which you derive pleasure from her company, learning about her physical characteristics, and watching her body language.

By now you will have shown that you possess clear social value, and demonstrated that your interest is genuine. In all likelihood, your dancer is already deriving some measure of comfort from your presence. You are gradually becoming the man she wishes were there when you are not, especially when dealing with the other, more typical, customers instead.

You’re moving now to the private area of the club, offering a
changed context
 for your dealings with your target stripper, one free of competition, or distraction. She is
isolated
, and only you may demand her attention. You must capitalize on the moment without being tied to outcomes or making demands. You cannot be afraid of rejection, only holding in your mind a positive, clear vision in which the two of you are together, and connected in whatever way suits you best, and is most pleasing to your nature and purpose.

Staying within character, congruent with the image you have built in her imagination, you have politely demurred on the offer of an immediate dance within the VIP. While it may not be outwardly visible, try to observe with your mind’s eye as your dancer breathes a sigh of relief. Not, perhaps, that she did not wish to dance for you but that you valued her highly enough to spend money for the chance just to get to know her better, something that could be done for free in the public areas of the club.

LOVELY
ROSES

This should increase your value in her estimation; it is the same basic mechanic at work when you buy roses for your wife or girlfriend. Roses are outrageously expensive, and quickly die soon after they are given. There is no real, practical reason to give someone roses, no matter how pretty or sweet smelling they may be. Yet, any man who has had any experience in love knows that a gift of expensive flowers has clear, demonstrably high value in the eyes of the woman who receives them.

Women all share a desire for security when engaging in
pair-bonding
 behavior. Any male willing to offer gifts that are expensive or difficult to acquire, yet are essentially valueless will automatically garner attention from viable females. His behavior suggests that he is willing, and able to expend extra effort on behalf of his chosen female, allowing himself to become committed to her in the process.

As an aside here; let’s take a moment to look at why this shiny-trinket-acquisition behavior demonstrates commitment on the part of a courting male. 

Back in the day, like around the time
Pong
became the first home video game, people only got to eat what they killed or gathered themselves. When you wake up every day of your life never knowing where the next double cheeseburger is coming from, it tends to focus you powerfully on survival. For most people, most of the time, there was no time for anything that didn’t involve getting fed. Therefore, if you took time out of wooly mammoth hunting to go looking for trick crap to impress girls with, it has two immediate and direct consequences in life:

• Your chance of accidently starving to death is increased dramatically.
  
• Your chance of banging other cave-babes is seriously impaired.
  

If you were looking to get down with some female in the group or tribe, you’d be forced to accept both personal risk and limited reproductive opportunities, thus demonstrating that you were one serious motherfucker; in other words, committed.
 All human social dynamics continue to operate on basic principles such as this, even today.

Demanding useless trinkets and shiny baubles from suitors are one reliable form of reproductive screening that lets sexually active females filter out unsuitable bonding candidates, and focus in on those that offer the most benefits to her, and any potential offspring.

Nothing truly says,

I’m safe

I have a penis

And if you’re interested

In
me
fucking
you
at some point

I'll be available

Quite the way giving a girl a bouquet of lovely roses does.

And it works too because, as I mentioned in an earlier chapter, women are
raving psychotics
. Spending extra money on something that you could do for free, simply because you appear to enjoy the company of the dancer that benefits from a bounce to VIP could be considered an equally effective method of handing over the expensive trinkets and shiny baubles as giving roses or any other crap like that, if not more.