Authors: Betsy Prioleau
Gajdusek, Carleton, 34
Ganesha (Hindu god), 75
Garbo, Greta, 47, 111, 211
Gardner, Ava, 23, 112
Gass, William, 150
Gates, Bill, 58
Gaussin, Mademoiselle, 62
Gaylin, Willard, 235
Gellhorn, Martha, 178, 219
Gershwin, George, 35–36
gesture, 165–66
Giddens, Anthony, 238
gifts and wealth, 125–29
Gilgamesh, king of Sumer, 26
Gillette, Douglas, 236
Gladstone, William, 170
Goddard, Paulette, 35
Goethe, Johann Wolfgang von, 152–53
Goleman, Daniel, 78, 79
Gordon, Mary,
Spending
, 84
Gore, Al, 58
Gottman, John, 20
Grahl, Nancy, 10, 11
Grant, Cary, 24, 72
Gray, John,
Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
, 124
Gréco, Juliette, 19
Green, Bryce, 164–65, 234
Green, Jane,
Mr. Maybe
, 153–54
Greene, Gael,
Blue Skies, No Candy
, 147
grooming and fashion, 100–103
Guiccioli, Countess Teresa, 23
Guignot, Elisabeth, 244
Guinevere (myth.), 139
Guinness, Hon. Joan, 19
Gustin (love rocket), 194–95
Gwynne, Nell, 86
gynephilia, 42
Haag, Pamela, 200
Hammer, Michael, 3
Hamsun, Knut,
Mysteries
, 52
Handyman, The
(fict.), 49
Harley, Veronica, 20
Harriman, Pamela, 129
Harris, Jack, 1–3, 113, 201, 239, 241
Haskell, Molly, 244
Hayes, Helen, 47
Hayworth, Rita, 18, 19, 199
heartthrob:
genuine, 21–24
therapy, 20–21
Heaven, Texas
(Phillips), 101, 127
Heisler, Stuart, 47
Helen of Troy, 162
Heloise, 182
Helvétius, Claude Adrien, 61–62, 118
Helvétius, Minette, 233
Hemingway, Ernest, 68
Hendrix, Jimi, 107
Hepburn, Katharine, 207
Hermes (myth.), 52, 63, 75, 78, 162, 167, 169, 176, 214
Hero of Our Time, A
(Lermontov), 116
Heston, Charlton, 72
Hilderbrand, Elin,
Summer Affair
, 162
Hiller, Jane, 181
Hollander, Paul, 230, 231
Holt, Helen Maud, 115
Horgan, Edward, 63
Houdini, 212
Howard, Elizabeth Jane, 200
How Do You Know
(movie), 142
Huffington, Arianna, 78
humor, 174–79
Huston, Anjelica, 56–57
Hutchinson, Mary, 77
Huxley, Aldous, 25, 56, 76–78, 167, 236–37
Ideal Marriage
(van de Velde), 113
identity, 213–20
Igou, Clémentine, 242–43
Iliad, The
, 46
Imer, Teresa, 177
Inanna (myth.), 67, 79, 121–22, 130, 172, 196, 209
infidelity, 227
Inquisition, 10, 68
integrity, 62
intelligence, 230–31
emotional, 79
and knowledge, 74–78
social IQ, 78–82
intensity, 36–39
intimacy, 150–58
irony and sophistication, 26
Isherwood, Christopher, 213
Isis (myth.), 152
“It,” 32
Jackson-Opoku, Sandra, 173
Jacobson, Stuart, 127
Jagger, Mick, 49–50
James, Eloisa,
Pleasure for Pleasure
, 84
Jamison, Key Redfield, 196
Jane Eyre
(Brontë), 56
Jeffrey, Stephen, 238
Johnson, Evangeline, 111
Johnson, Hillary, 54, 55
joie de vivre
, 33–34, 58, 60, 243
Jong, Erica, 55, 195, 214
Jonson, Ben, 4
Joseph II, Emperor, 11
Jung, Carl, 46, 89, 156–57
Kali (myth.), 152
K
ā
ma S
ū
tra
:
on knowledge, 74–75, 181
as love manual, 84, 108, 113, 114, 122, 125, 138, 172, 181, 193, 196
on music, 108
on sex drive, 39
on unity, 154
on use of voice, 166, 172
Kane, Payton, 16
Karen (financier), 221–23, 228, 230–31
Karr, Alphonse, 221
Kate & Leopold
(movie), 238–39
Keillor, Garrison, 235
Kelly, Grace, 47, 199
Kennedy, Jacqueline, 129, 211
Kennedy, John F., 24
Keroualle, Louise de, 86
Key, Ellen, 216
Keyes, Marian,
Last Chance Saloon
, 167
Khan, Prince Aly, 18–19, 114, 123–24, 129
Khonsu (myth.), 87
Kierkegaard, Søren, 39, 202
Kilmarnock, Lord, 200
Kinsale, Laura, 215
Kipnis, Laura, 196
Kirkland, Gelsey, 118
kissing, 123
Kittredge, Charmian, 212
Kjærstad, Jan, 214–15
Kleypas, Lisa, 56, 118, 121, 162, 173, 204
Kligman, Ruth, 141
Klimt, Gustav, 49, 206
knowledge/intelligence, 74–78
Kooning, Willem de, 23
Krishna (myth.), 109
Kristeva, Julia, 127
Krull, Felix (fict.), 172–73
Kundera, Milan, 80, 203
Kurt (photographer), 51, 71, 240–41
Kutcher, Ashton, 42
ladies’ men:
counterfeit, 24–25
genuine, 25–27
making of, 236–37
selling men on, 235–36
La Fayette, Madame de, 88, 139
Lamb, Lady Caroline, 22, 23
Lamott, Anne,
Blue Shoe
, 46
Lancelot (myth.), 139
Lane, Anthony, 225
Lange, Jessica, 118
Langer, Susanne, 176
language, 162–63, 186
Laszlo (Hungarian lover), 74
laughter, 174–79
Law, Jude, 232
Lawrence, D. H., 106, 188
LeDuff, Charlie, 225
Leigh, Vivien, 59, 234
Lessing, Doris,
Love, Again
, 109
Liber (myth.), 200
Liebowitz, Michael, 83, 203
“Lilu” (myth.), 4
listening, 168–70
Liszt, Franz, 210, 216, 233
and age, 25–26
intensity of, 37–38
and Lisztmania, 110
and music, 49, 110
restlessness of, 53
spirituality of, 72
Loki (myth.), 176
Lombard, Carole, 47
London, Jack, 53, 56, 211–12
Loren, Sophia, 112
Lothario (fict.), 5
Louis XIV, king of France, 41
Louis XV, king of France, 41
love:
maintaining, 193
MRI image of, 37
Love, Again
(Lessing), 109
Love & Sex
(movie), 48
Love Machine
(Susann), 5
love of women, 42–44
Luce, Clare Booth, 178
Luke (computer jock), 97–98
lustline, 114
Lyon, Kate, 217
MacCarthy, Desmond, 189
MacDowell, Andie, 243
Madame Bovary
(Flaubert), 34, 101, 105, 197
Madden, Bess, 212
Mad Men
(TV), 5
Mahler, Alma, 206
Mahmud, Sultan, 47
Makarova, Natalya, 118
males:
alpha, 12–16, 212
archetypes, 236
attractiveness of, 13–14, 228–29
chauvinistic, 225
cosmetic surgery for, 228
erotic education of, 236
estranged, 225–26
flawed manhood, 54–57, 91
“healthy” qualities of, 9, 26
initiative by, 136–42, 193, 234
machismo, 225–26, 230
neo–ladies’ men, 227–35
selling men on ladies’ men, 235–36
Malipiero, Alvise Gasparo, 177
Malkovich, John, 4
Mann, Thomas, 172
Manners, Lady Diana, 148–49
Mansfield, Katherine, 116
March, Emily, 197–98
Mark Antony, 198–99
Markham, Beryl, 54
Markham, Howard, 195
Marley, Bill, 114
Martelli, Niccolò, 188
Martin, Shelby, 229
Marvell, Andrew, 185, 188
Maslow, Abraham, 214
Mating Mind, The
(Miller), 61
Matthau, Walter, 210
Maugham, Somerset,
Up at the Villa
, 43, 176
Maupassant, Guy de, 129
Maurois, André, “The Art of Loving,” 36
Max, Tucker, 225, 226
May, Rollo, 126
McConaughey, Matthew, 24
Meana, Marta, 84, 137, 144, 229
Meet Joe Black
(movie), 246
melodrama, 26
Memoirs of Two Brides, The
(Balzac), 37
mental stimulation, 214
Menuhin, Yehudi, 167
Messud, Claire,
Emperor’s Children
, 153
Meston, Cindy, 116, 202, 208, 232
Methley, Herbert (fict.), 173
Metternich, Clemens von, 81–82
Midler, Bette, 246
Miller, Geoffrey:
on apathy, 83
and evolutionary psychology, 48, 63, 75, 79, 87, 104, 186
on the future, 242
“ornamental brain” theory of, 180
on playfulness, 196, 202
The Mating Mind
, 61
on verbal courtship, 162, 186
Miller, Sienna, 232–33
Miller, “Tee,” 211
Millhauser, Steven, “An Adventure of Don Juan,” 86
Millionaire Matchmaker, The
, 33
Milton, John,
Paradise Lost
, 4, 105, 146, 150
mind, 134–58
intimacy, 150–58
praise, 143–50
royal rush (male initiative), 136–42
Minnelli, Liza, 118
Miou-Miou, 243
Mitchell, Joni, 188
Mitchell, Juliet, 4
Mo’ Better Blues
(movie), 49
Modigliani, Amedeo, 25, 74
Mohawk, Delores, 65
Monroe, Marilyn, 188, 199
Montaigne, Michel de, 185
Moore, Demi, 42
Moore, Robert, 236
morality/virtue, 61–66
Moreau, Jeanne, 244
Morrell, Ottoline, 76
Mozart, Wolfgang Amadeus, 10, 11, 34
Munro, Alice, “Passion,” 88
Murphy, Michael, 9
music, 107–12
Musset, Alfred de, 9, 34, 49, 64, 114, 128–29
Napoleon Bonaparte, 81, 170
narcissism, 8
Neal, Patricia, 47, 178–79
Necker, Madame, 184
Neeson, Liam, 143
neocortex, 195
neo–ladies’ men, 227–35
making of, 237–41
the reality, 232–35
Nesbitt, Catherine, 149
Nesle, marquise de, 41
Neumann, Erich, 71
neurochemistry, 144
neurotransmitters, 202
Nicholson, Jack, 19–20, 23–24, 56–57, 124–25
Ninon de Lenclos, 236
Niven, David, 35, 80, 199
Nochimson, Martha, 154
Noel, Miriam, 106–7
nonverbal expression, 164–70
norepinephrine, 37, 202
No Reservations
(movie), 132
novelty, 201–6, 229–30
Noyes, John Humphrey, 72–74
Nye, Maria, 77
Oberon, Merle, 199
O’Brien, Tim,
Tomcat in Love
, 215
Odin (myth.), 203
Odysseus (myth.), 55, 88, 101, 128, 146
Ogas, Ogi, 229
Ogma (myth.), 162
Oneida Community, 73–74
online porn, 224
“ornamental brain” theory of evolution, 180
Orpheus (myth.), 49, 109
Ortega y Gasset, José, 33, 79, 233, 245
Ortigue, Stephanie, 193
Osbourne, Fanny, 69
Osiris (myth.), 52, 55, 145, 152, 196
Other Man, The
(movie), 143
Other One, The
(Colette), 37
Otway, Thomas, 42
Out of Africa
(movie), 53
Ovid:
The Art of Love
, 191
on eloquence, 163, 172, 185
on gift-giving, 127
on kindness, 66
love manual of, 79, 84, 91, 114, 122, 138, 145, 154, 191
on music, 112
oxytocin, 124, 161
Pacana, Gregory, 8
Paglia, Camille, 45, 224
Painter Surprised by a Naked Admirer, The
(L. Freud), 50
Palmerston, Lord “Lord Cupid,” 34–35
Pan (myth.), 169
Paradise Lost
(Milton), 4, 105, 146, 150
Paris (myth.), 46, 162
Parvati (myth.), 209
passion:
and the art of love, 24, 191
baggage accompanying, 67, 212–13
effectiveness of, 36–37, 132–33, 134
and playfulness, 195–96
and poetry, 185
quest for, 137–38, 142, 227, 245–46
retaining, 92–93
and setting, 104
“Passion” (Munro), 88
Patten, Susan Mary, 150
Peacock, Molly, 232
Pease, Barbara and Allan, 165
Pentland, Alex, 43
People
, “Sexiest Man Alive,” 24, 99
Perper, Timothy, 237
Person, Ethel, 87, 197, 208
personal space, 166
Pertschuk, Michael, 228
Pessl, Marisha,
Special Topics in Calamity Physics
, 203
Peter K. (priest), 70
Petronius,
Satyricon
, 171
phallus, etymology of, 39
Phil, Dr., 13, 20, 194
Phillips, Adam, 145, 197, 209
Phillips, Susan Elizabeth, 114, 162, 177
Physiology of Marriage, The
(Balzac), 82, 97, 159
Picasso, Pablo, 107
Piercy, Marge,
Small Changes
, 187
Pinker, Steven, 63
Pisana, Camilla, 88
Pitt, Brad, 72
Plato, 62, 151, 156
Playboy of the Western World
(Synge), 187
player seducer, 16–18
playfulness, 195–97
pleasure, 82–86
pleasure principle, 83, 85, 200–201
Plutarch, 38
poetry, 185–89
Polignac, contesse de, 41
Pollock, Jackson, 141–42
Porter, Cole, 51
Potemkin, Prince Grigory, 12, 43, 56, 99, 131
Powell, Marlene, 239–40
Power, Udana, 124
power plays, 207–13
praise, 143–50
Pride and Prejudice
(Austen), 63
Priestley, J. B., 171