Authors: Betsy Prioleau
237 majority of men: Perper’s study discussed in Andrew Trees,
Decoding Love: Why It Takes Twelve Frogs to Find a Prince and Other Revelations from the Science of Attraction
(New York: Avery/Penguin, 2009), 175.
237 series of tests: ibid.
237 “Tell me what you want!”:
Blue Valentine
, direc. Derek Cianfrance, Incentive Filmed Entertainment, 2010.
238 “The gentlemen”: Stephen Jeffreys,
The Libertine
(London: Nick Hern Books, 1994), 3.
238 Favorites of women: Lucy Hughes-Hallet,
Heroes: A History of Hero Worship
(New York: Anchor Books/Random House, 2004), 9; and Ruth Karrass,
Sexuality in Medieval Europe: Doing unto Others
(New York: Routledge, 2005), 129.
238 “foppish dreamers”: Anthony Giddens,
The Transformation of Intimacy: Sexuality, Love and Eroticism in Modern Society
(Stanford, CA: Stanford University Press, 1992), 59.
238 “have generally been scorned”: Irving Singer,
Sex: A Philosophic Primer
(New York: Rowman and Littlefield, 2001), 47.
238 How other men regard: “Jackman, Hugh: Someone Like You,”
urban cinefile
, December 13, 2011, www.urbancinefile.comau/home/view.asp?ArticleID=5040.
238 Women love him: Ben Brantley, “Hugh Jackman Keeps His Pants On,”
New York Times
, December 8, 2011.
238 “puddle[s] of desire”: Film critic Carrie Rickey of the
Philadelphia Inquirer
, quoted in Glenn Whipp, “Ladies’ Man,”
Los Angeles Daily News
, January 1, 2002.
239 He looks and moves: Tim Struby, “Hugh Jackman: Hollywood’s Baddest Good Guy,”
Men’s Fitness
, October 2011.
239 During his preparations: “Jackman, Hugh.”
239 Etiquette, she writes: Professor Marlene Powell, email, January 29, 2011.
239 Japanese folktale: See story in Stephen Nachmanovitch,
Free Play: Improvisation in Life and Art
(New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin Putnam, 1990), 2, 1–3.
239 Can we
teach
:
Sexy Beast
, direc. Jonathan Glazer, Recorded Picture Company, 2001.
240 “Erotic charisma”: Powell, email, January 26, 2011.
240 recalls Joseph Campbell’s hero’s journey: See Joseph Campbell,
The Hero with a Thousand Faces
(Bollingen Series vol. 17) (1949; Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1972).
240 “psychological voltage”: Quoted in Len Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma: The Psychology of Revolutionary Religious Personalities
(Syracuse, NY: Syracuse University Press, 1997), 26.
241 “ineffable specialness”: Sara Wheeler,
Too Close to the Sun: The Life and Times of Denys Finch Hatton
(London: Jonathan Cape, 2006), 10.
241 “Just leave it alone”: Roland Barthes,
A Lover’s Discourse: Fragments
, trans. Richard Howard (New York: Hill and Wang/Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1978), 137.
241 Batten explains: Mary Batten,
Sexual Strategies: How Females Choose Their Mates
(New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam’s, 1992), 97; and Miller,
Mating Mind
,
39–45.
241 “When women start”: Quoted in William F. Allman, “The Mating Game,”
U.S. News and World Report
, July 19, 1993.
242 “deliver the greatest rapture”: Miller,
Mating Mind
, 156.
242 “almost indecent magnetism”: Quoted in Paul Chutcow,
Depardieu: A Biography
(New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1994), 251.
243 “joie de vivre”: Quoted in ibid., 187.
243 “Gérard knows”: Quoted in ibid., 87.
243 “lovable”: Quoted in Glenn Collins, “The Mystery of Depardieu: A Gentle Heart in a Boxer’s Body,”
New York Times
, June 4, 1990.
243 Although so timid: Chutcow,
Depardieu
, 107.
244 Under an inspired teacher: Ibid., 130.
244 “whole new language”: Ibid., 148.
244 “guided him”: Ibid., 173.
244 “I always turned”: Quoted in ibid., 173.
244 “He was all there”: Quoted in ibid., 266.
244 “Eros the masterpiece”: Quoted in Roy Porter, “Libertinism and Promiscuity,” in Jonathan Miller, ed.,
Don Giovanni: Myths of Seduction and Betrayal
(New York: Shocken Books, 1990), 8.
245 “The power to charm”: Charles Darwin,
The Descent of Man
, ed. Michael T. Ghiselin (1871; New York: Dover, 2010), 172.
245 “the interesting man”: Ortega y Gasset,
On Love
, 167–190.
245 “Don Juan to his wife”: Van de Velde,
Ideal Marriage
, 10.
245 “the adulterer’s art”: Havelock Ellis,
Studies in the Psychology of Sex
(New York: Random House, 1936), vol. 2, 547.
246 “the culmination of life”: Ortega y Gasset,
On Love
, 142.
246 “the supreme thing”: Quoted in Havelock Ellis, “The Valuation of Sexual Love,” in
Studies in the Psychology of Sex
, vol. 2, 141.
246 “sing with rapture”:
Meet Joe Black
, direc. Martin Brest, City Light Films, Universal Pictures, 1998.
246 “Expect the lightning”: Ibid.
246 “The seductive”: Georges Bataille,
Eroticism: Death and Sensuality
, trans. Mary Dalwood (San Francisco: City Lights Books, 1986), 236.
246 “If you know”:
What Women Want
, direc. Nancy Meyers, Paramount Pictures, 2000.
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