A KeyHolder's Handbook (13 page)

Here is a tip that will help you keep your partner in line. At random times, when you are both home (and especially if you have kids) take him to the bedroom and take his pants down. For the next five minutes or so, fondle his balls, chastity cage, and even his bottom. Make him stand perfectly still while you do it. This is a good time to whisper some erotic things to him. Maybe tell him that you have plans to tease him later, or tell him about your plans to humiliate him in some way (see the list above). When his time is up, walk out of the room and tell him to pull himself together. Or tell him to do one of his chores. This kind of thing will keep his mind filled with fantasy. He won't be able to think about much else for the next couple of hours.

You can also do something similar when you are out shopping. You will have to be more discrete about it. Hide among the racks of clothing in the women's department and put your hand down the back of his pants. Then whisper something (anything) he will find erotic and then walk away.

There are a million things like that you can do on the spur of the moment. It will get and keep his attention on you. He will follow you anywhere if he thinks you might repeat the fondling. Of course, you can always put your hand down the front of his pants if you want. And you don't have to be out shopping. You do it in the car, at a restaurant, or while out for a stroll in your own neighborhood. And remember, you don't actually have to do any of the things you say to him. You are simply teasing him psychologically.

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Chapter 14 – Toys And More

“
I know those little spikes in your chastity cage
hurt when your little willy tries to get hard,
but I want you to watch me use my
vibrator... Every day.”

As a kid, I am sure that, like me, the more toys you had the better. Well, as an adult, I still can't seem to get enough toys. Adult, sexual toys, that is. But there are a few basic toys that you might want (or need) if you are going to properly tease your chastity boy.

Here, I will list those and some other (optional) toys, so that you will have a guide to go by when you are ready to buy your own toys. Many of the things I mention here have more than one use. Some are everyday items you can find around the house, or substitute with something around the house. We will be discussing not only the items themselves, but their many uses.

Of course, you won't have to use every item in the list in all the ways I describe. What you choose to do, and which items you enjoy using, is entirely up to you. This is meant to give you an idea of what is available and how you can put those things to use. Let's start with what I call the “essential” items every toy box should have.

Essential Items

Clothespins:
The cheap, wooden, spring type of clothespins are perfect. You can use them as nipple clamps, or clip them on his scrotum three to six at a time. Men's nipples are not as easily clamped as a woman's, but it can be done. This causes considerable pain depending on how strong the springs are. I have found that the cheaper versions, obtainable at most dollar stores, work best because the springs are usually weaker. You can weaken the springs by spreading the jaws apart farther than they usually go, but you need to use caution. If you spread them too far apart, you might over-stretch them and they won't work at all any more.

Try this test: If you can withstand the pain on your little finger (at the nail) for up to one minute, then you can use it on your partner without worry. Don't leave spring clips such as these on for more than a few minutes (up to about ten minutes should be plenty) because they can cause damage if left in place too long. They will also cause more pain when they are removed.

I don't recommend plastic clothespins because the jaws usually have grooves in them to help them grip and they tend to cause too much pain. A smooth surface is preferred. Any clips you use on the scrotum will not be nearly as painful because there are not as many nerve endings there. But you should stick to the ten minute rule for scrotum clips as well.

Kabob Skewers:
Again, the wooden kind you can get in any grocery store. Toothpicks work but the skewers are not as sharp. You can poke your victim in just about any sensitive spot with one of these to stimulate his skin. Don't poke him too hard. You don't want to break the skin, you are just teasing him with them. They work best when he is blindfolded, but we will cover that later.

Use the skewers to poke his scrotum, his penis, his bottom, his chest, his sides, his legs, and/or the bottoms of his feet. Anywhere that you like (except his eyes, of course). You can test the spot with soft pokes, then try harder ones to see his reactions. You will undoubtedly find many places that make him writhe and jerk.

Blindfold:
I chose to put this under essential items instead of BDSM equipment because I feel that every toy box should have at least one blindfold. Taking away your partner's sense of sight is the single most arousing thing you can do. He will be aroused simply because he cannot see what you are doing. Don't believe me? Sit him down in a chair, blindfold him, then do nothing but sit and watch him. After about five minutes, if you can't tell he is turned on, ask him how he feels. I would be willing to bet that, whatever he says, you will know that he is excited.

I use a blindfold whenever I don't need for him to see something in particular. Even then, I may let him see it (like a branding iron) before I apply the blindfold. No, I would not brand my chastity boys unless I knew that is was something they truly wanted me to do. But you would not believe the effect it has when they see it before being blindfolded. A piece of ice will burn them if they believe I am going to use a hot iron iron.

A blindfold also allows him to visualize you any way you want him to. If you want to tell him that you are putting on a leather teddy and fishnet stockings with thigh-high boots, he will see you dressed that way in his mind. You may be wearing a pair of bluejeans and an old t-shirt, but he doesn't know that. The blindfold will also heighten his other senses. Your every touch will be magnified. That is a good thing!

A Feather:
Or a very soft brush. This is used to give him some very light, very stimulating, and frustrating, touches. You can stroke his penis (if he isn't wearing his chastity cage) very lightly and he will, most likely, not be able to ejaculate from this alone. If he can, do it less or stop more often. You can use the feather on his feet, his inner thighs, his face, his genitals, and just about any place you want to use it. Have fun with it. It works best if he is physically restrained.

Lubrication:
There are many more uses for lubrication than just making things easily slip inside you. Whether you are into anal play or not, you need lubrication! Used on his penis, you can keep him on the verge of ejaculating for a very long time. It also keeps his penis from getting chaffed, or sore, from your hand. If you use any of the optional toys that require insertion of his penis, you will need lubrication there as well.

You may need to lubricate his chastity cage to prevent chaffing as well. I have found that a good silicone lubricant will do great for that. You may want a water soluble lubricant for certain activities, and one that is not water soluble as well. Not being water soluble, they usually last longer and don't soak into the skin or evaporate. Petroleum jelly can be used as long as it does not come into contact with certain plastics or vinyl. Certain plastics and vinyls (condoms included) can be attacked by this type of lubrication and become ineffective or even destroyed. So read the label before you buy.

Wrist Restraints:
I put this here instead of with the BDSM equipment because it has always been my belief that you should restrain his arms (hands) any time you remove his chastity device. We wouldn't want him touching himself, now would we? You can use a piece of rope, fuzzy inexpensive cuffs, or a pair of good leather cuffs.

DO NOT use steel handcuffs! The police use this type of cuff partly because they are NOT comfortable, and partly because you need a key to remove them. But if you have ever worn a pair of these things for any length of time, you know how harsh they are. They can be so uncomfortable that he won't enjoy anything else you do to him. A nice piece of nylon rope will work just fine. Besides, you will need to add more rope in the near future anyway. Ankle cuffs would be nice, too, but not necessary.

A Vibrator:
You will need some kind of vibrator. It can be one of those corded types, though they never make the cord long enough. The rechargeable kind is better, no cord to get in the way or limit your reach.

You can even use a small battery operated type. You know the type, it is most often called “bullet” shaped. It should be big enough that it requires “C” batteries or the larger “D” cells. You want it powerful enough to last at least an hour. If possible, it should have multi speeds as well. Changing speeds during a tease can make the difference between a ruined orgasm and no orgasm (the desired result).

As I said, it really doesn't make much difference what type you have as long as it vibrates and can be placed wherever you want to put it. It is best to keep one of these in your nightstand. You will want it handy at any rate. You might even want a variety of vibrators of different sizes and shapes.

Condoms:
You know what these are (or you should). You should always have several on hand in your toy bag, your nightstand, and anywhere else you might find yourself in need of one. The car is a good place to hide a few as well. After all, you never know when you will need one while you are away from home. Flavored ones are nice, too. I keep some that are lubricated (no spermicide!) and some that are not. You'll find out why later.

You can (and should) use condoms to cover any of your insert-able toys. It is not only more sanitary, but makes clean up a breeze. Condoms can do a great deal more than prevent babies!

Other Basic Items

Spreader Bar:
You can spend a chunk of money on one or more of these, or you can go to your local hardware or lumber store and buy one for under $5. Just ask for a dowel rod at least 3/4 of an inch in diameter (one inch works as well) and three or four feet long. Many lumber stores carry these in both three and four foot lengths so you don't have to cut anything.

Using a little rope you can secure your guy's wrists and/or ankles to it. If your bed does not have posts or rails that are convenient to tie to, a pair of spreaders are indispensable. You might, on rare occasions, need one four feet long. But three feet should work for most applications. You can tie your guy's hands behind his back, or to the bed post, or just about anywhere, but what do you do with his legs?

If you want good access to his private parts, you have two choices; 1) you can sit between his legs and try to hold them in place while you do your work; or 2) you can fasten his ankles to the ends of a spreader bar and sit or lay where you like. Personally, I prefer to use the spreader since it gives me more freedom to move around. Sitting in one position (even for thirty minutes) can put undue stress on certain body parts. Namely your back!

Straight-back Chair:
You probably have several of these sitting around your dinner table. Yes, that kind of chair. Something you can use to bind his feet and arms to while doing a number of different things. You can bend him over the back with his feet bound to the back legs and his wrists bound to the front legs just below the seat. In this position, his genitals, as well as his bottom, are in a good position for you to do what you need to do. Want to paddle him? Want to take him from behind? Want to play with his balls? This is the perfect position. You can also bind him in a sitting position and do lot of other things with him.

Warming Cream:
A deep heating rub of some kind. There are a number of brands that come in different forms. Icy-Hot is one that comes to mind. Tiger Balm., Deep-Heating rub, and Bengay are a few more. I hope you are not wondering why you need one or more of these. It is simple. Rub some on his scrotum or anus before he leaves the house, then you will understand. He will tell you if you don't already know.

Most of these creams, roll-ons, and sticks need to be covered to be most effective. That is, you don't want to smear one of these on his nipples and leave him laying on the bed. They don't work very well that way. But, if you put a shirt on him and send him to the store, you will get more benefit from it.

Ice Bag:
There are several things you can use this for, but the main one is to shrink his “dink” down to size when it is time to put it back in the cage. Assuming you have NOT allowed him to have a full orgasm, he may be too large to fit into his chastity cage. So you will need to shrink him down again in order to get it back on. Ice can be used in many other ways as well.

Anal Plugs:
You may not be into anal play, but when it comes to humiliation, there are few things better than an assortment of anal plugs. You should have at least one in your basic toy bag. Get whatever size he thinks he can handle, and one larger as well [wink, wink]. I would keep several sizes on hand, just in case.

Realistic Dildos:
These are are of the softer variety. You will need them for various things. Think about what kind you would enjoy and then think bigger! You will want several sizes. Some small, or about his size. And others that are larger than he is. How much larger is up to you. They can be used for both anal and oral training.