Sex Made Easy (46 page)

talking to about sex and sexual prefer ences,
160–61
,
195–96
,
199–200

thinking about people other than partner during sex,
206–7

Reproduction.
See also
Pregnancy

baby-making sex,
140
,
224–26

importance of education about,
9–10
,
18

Resources,
244–48

Retrograde ejaculation (dry orgasms),
133–34

Saliva,
180

Satisfaction, sexual

attraction to partner and,
139
,
145–50

autonomy and,
142–44

libidos, differences between partner,
157–58

orgasms and,
92

self-expansion,
150–51

sexual variety and,
194–98

talking to about partner about sex and

sexual preferences,
160–61
,
195–96
,
199–200

what makes for good sex,
140–45

Schnarch, David,
144
,
158
,
207

The Science of Orgasm
(Komisaruk, Beyer-Flores, and Whipple),
96–97

Scrotum

appreciation for,
16

education about,
19

parts of,
51

sore or achy,
60–61

Secret sex toys,
166–68

Self-expansion,
150–51

Selfloving
(Dodson),
167

Self-touching

by young children,
97

by young children, response to by parents,
17–18

Semen (ejaculate)

allergy to,
44
,
62

composition of,
52
,
134

in eyes,
44
,
63–64
,
212

phases of ejaculation and,
117

prostate gland and,
52–53

sperm,
52
,
63

swallowing,
134

taste of,
62

tube that carries,
48

volume and aging,
136–37

Seminal vesicles,
134

Sex

balancing life and,
218

boring sex,
12

good sex, what makes for,
140–45

great sex, potential for,
10–15

green options and strategies,
179–80

health and sexual function,
135
,
220–21
,
235–36

learning about,
12–15
,
122

not feeling anything during,
155–56

pain during,
30
,
33–34

post-cancer sex,
103

pressure to have,
159

real world sex,
12

reasons for having,
140

research studies about,
9
,
11–12

secrecy surrounding,
244–48

talking to about partner about,
160–61
,
195–96
,
199–200

time and energy for,
13
,
218

unpredictability of,
139

Sex clubs,
190
,
208
,
213
,
214–15

Sex columnist,
9

Sex experts, better sex enjoyment by,
13

Sex for One
(Dodson),
167

Sexless relationships,
158–59

Sexploration

anal sex,
191–94

casual sex and condom use,
190–91

doing something you don't want to,
200–202
,
214

open-minded consideration of partner's activities,
200–202

sex with other men, experimentation with,
212–13

threesomes,
208–11

Sex Smarts Quiz,
43
,
65
,
90
,
114
,
138
,
164
,
189
,
217
,
243

Sexsomnia,
162–63

Sex tape, homemade,
215–16

Sex therapists

delayed ejaculation, help for,
130

erectile dysfunction, help for,
133

Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome, help for,
36–37

vaginismus and vulvodynia, help for,
38–39

Sex toys.
See also specific toys

advances in,
57

availability of,
165
,
166–68

better sex with,
169

borrowing,
183

cats and,
238

cleaning,
173

condoms, use of on,
172
,
175

design, safety, and instructions, input on,
9

green options and strategies,
179–80

G Spot exploration and stimulation,
28
,
175

in-home parties for,
167–68

how to use,
173–76
,
174
,
176

lost in body,
176
,
177
,
179
,
181–83

manufacturing and packaging of,
172

materials and toxins,
172

prevalence of use of,
12
,
194

questions about,
165
,
181–88

recycling,
180
,
183

research studies about use of,
12

safety and DIY toys,
177

secret sex toys,
166–68

talking to partner about using,
177–79

threesomes and,
210

why use,
168

Sexual enhancement products,
169–71
.
See also
Lubricants
;
Sex toys

Sexual health

education about,
65–66

neurologist consultations and,
79–80

reluctance to talk about,
122

Sexuality

curiosity about,
18

importance of education about,
9–10
,
18–19

Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

anal sex and,
72
,
192

appearance of genitals and,
75

borrowing sex toys and,
183

circumcision and,
49

condom use and,
49
,
71
,
72
,
77
,
83
,
87
,
160
,
170–71
,
186–87

education about,
66
,
77

facials and,
211–12

monogamous relationships and,
86–87

oral sex and,
71
,
72
,
78–79
,
86–87

partner notification programs,
83

piercings and,
59

prevention of,
49
,
71
,
74
,
76
,
77
,
78–79
,
83
,
85
,
87

razor bumps mistaken for,
32–33

sharing information about,
33

status of partner,
54
,
59
,
63
,
77
,
160
,
183
,
211–12

stigma attached to,
76–77

ten things women should know about,
73–77

testing for,
59
,
63
,
70
,
71–73
,
77
,
160
,
186
,
187
,
188

threesomes and,
209
,
210

transmission of,
78–79
,
86–87

worry about while having sex,
220

The Sexual Male
,
126

Sexual Selections
(Zuk),
199

Sexy Ever After
(Brisben and Peterson),
103

Shaft,
45
,
45

Showers,
44–45

Sildenafil (Viagra),
102
,
121

Silicone-based lubricants,
156
,
169
,
176
,
185

Silver Bullet vibrator,
103
,
166
,
174
,
175

Simultaneous orgasms,
112–13

Sinusitis,
135

Skin conditions and disorders,
34
,
41
,
85–86
,
87

Sleep

orgasms and,
100

partner trying to have sex while sleeping,
162–63

pets and sleeping over at partner's house,
242

pets in beds and,
239–41

sexual function and,
135

Smegma,
21

Smoking,
116
,
120–21
,
137

Soy, sexual arousal and,
36

Spectatoring,
218–19

Speculums,
70

Spencer, Paula,
26
,
42

Sperm

number of,
129

phases of ejaculation and,
117

production of,
51

semen and,
52
,
63

Spooning,
241–42

Spouse

attraction to,
139
,
145–50

attraction to someone other than,
151–55

good sex, what makes for,
140–45

intimacy, feelings of connection, and

erections,
119–20

libidos, differences between,
157–58

monogamous relationships and STIs,
86–87

open-minded consideration of partner's activities,
200–202

pressure to have sex,
159

sexless relationships,
158–59

sex with someone other than,
12
,
153–54

talking to about sex and sexual
preferences,
160–61
,
195–96
,
199–200

thinking about people other than partner during sex,
206–7

Squeeze Technique,
122
,
123
,
128

Stewart, Elizabeth,
26
,
42

Stop-Start Technique,
122
,
123
,
128
,
129

Surgical menopause,
38
,
105

Susie Sexpert's Lesbian Sex World
,
205

Syphilis

condom use and,
76

sneakiness of,
76

testing for,
63
,
72

transmission of,
76
,
79

Taint (tween),
51

Talking to about partner about sex and sexual preferences,
160–61
,
195–96
,
199–200

Teabagging,
51

The Technology of Orgasm
(Maines),
167

Testicles,
51
,
61
,
129

Threesomes,
208–11

Time and energy for sex,
13
,
218

Toilet seats,
86

Toothbrushes, vibrating,
167

Trichomoniasis

prevalence of,
88

symptoms of,
88