Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed (3 page)

How tall you appear, has little to do with how tall you actually are. Obviously it is very hard to hide someone who is 6’ 4”, but just because you are average height, or smaller doesn't mean you cannot apply this principle. When you are out with your friends and they are sitting, stand up. You are the one people see, you are the Alpha Male of the group. Women want to know what makes you so dominant, and why you are better than the rest of your friends. You should never slouch, but if you are a short person it is extremely important to stand tall. Get the most out of what you have. If you are a larger guy, slouching will make you appear lazy and sloppy.

Chest Out

Alpha Males thrust their chest out to display their strong pectorals. Men do this both to women, “Look at me I’m strong and will protect you!” And other men, “I’m strong so you’d better not get in my way!” You can exaggerate this move by turning your body at an angle, showing off your chest profile. Women also do this. They accentuate their chest to attract you. Again this isn’t you having to put in hours at the gym to show off your amazing pecs. It’s standing in a way that taps into the subconscious of women. It doesn’t matter how big your chest is, but rather that you are standing tall in a way that says you are strong and have the ability to protect her.

Shoulders Back

Pulling the shoulders back sticks the chest out. Dropping the shoulders is a sign of laziness and poor posture. Poor posture makes you look weak and pathetic. Pulling the shoulders back also helps the shorter man appear to be taller. It helps the portly man appear to be confident and comfortable in his skin.

Elbows

The elbows can be used to make us appear larger than we really are. Just like a male bird will ruffle up his feathers to appear larger, placing your hands on your hips and sticking your elbows out will make you look bigger, and expands the chest; another power display.

Shoulder Width Stance

Keeping your feet at a shoulder width stance allows you to take up more space, making you appear larger. It leaves the crotch open for attack. This is a signal that says you are open and approachable, versus closed off. By doing so it tells the world that you are not afraid of any threats. Closing the legs protects the crotch from attack, showing fear.

Toes Out

Pointing your toes outwards tells the room that you are open for communication. Again, you are approachable. Pointing the toes in, signals that you are closed off and feel intimidated by your surroundings. You never want to appear to be closed off or to have personal barriers.

Becoming Alpha Male: Strength

Studies have shown that a woman’s favorite male body part is broken down into three groups, legs, butts, and the combination of the chest and arms. Surprisingly the male butt is top choice with forty percent. Overall, women are looking for an athletic body shape. Mix it with strong arms and a tight butt, you can’t go wrong. Male bodies were built to hunt, chase food, wrestle animals, and kill any potential threat. Even today women are still attracted to a man who looks like he can provide these basic needs. We’re not saying you need to be huge but you should be in shape. If you are not in shape you need to start doing some kind of activity. For skinny guys, start doing some sort of weight training. Even if it is minor you will see major results. If you are a round guy, start doing some kind of running or walking. Again, even if it’s only two times a week for ten to twenty minutes it will help. Do what you can.

Broad Shoulders

Broad Shoulders taper down to a narrow waist, creating a V-Taper. This creates the most athletic look. Men who appear to be physically fit are rated more attractive by women. Don’t stress out if this does not describe you. What we are talking about is using what you yourself have, and making the most of it; putting yourself in the most attractive position possible.

Muscular Arms

Muscular arms show women that he is strong and able to carry their kill over long distances. It also gives them something to hold on to when walking around the bar. Big, not huge, arms make a woman feel safe. If you have big arms, wear something to show them off. If you have bean pole arms, don’t wear large baggy shirts. This will make your arms appear even smaller. A tighter fitting shirt will actually make small arms look bigger. You could also opt for a long sleeve button down.

Tight Butt

A nice butt is a favorite of women everywhere. You ask any woman at a football game what her favorite part of the game was and ninety percent will say the uniforms. The reason women find it so attractive is because a tight, muscular rear is needed to make the thrusting motion in sex. A strong thrusting motion will provide greater success of sperm transfer. Wear pants that are flattering to your particular body type.

Muscular Legs

Muscular legs are symbols of masculine power and endurance. They allowed our ancestors to run quickly over long distances to chase and hunt game.

Becoming Alpha Male: Attitude

The attitude of the Alpha Male is what gives us that swagger. It’s prominent in our walk, the look in our eye, the thunder in our voice. It’s the thing that women can’t quite put their finger on when they are asking themselves, “Why am I so attracted to this guy?” If you have the right attitude, you will have the right confidence.

Thousand Yard Stare

Alpha Male’s hunt with their eyes. They use them to look for their prey, and ward off all threats. The eyes can be used to attract the girl across the room or stare down any would be competition. As you scan across the room for potential targets, move you eyes slowly looking to make eye contact with the target. Eye contact is very important in the body language game. It is one of the things that allows you to display confidence. Without confidence, women will see right through you no matter how well you present yourself. When you make eye contact, hold it for an extra second, doing so develops sexual chemistry. Throw in a smile to show her you are sincere but it also is seen as a sign of confidence. We are not saying to stare at every cute girl you see until she looks in your direction, but as you are looking around, catch her eye and hold contact, rather than quickly looking away. If you are shy, chances are you have very poor eye contact. Start practicing with everyone you come in contact with, and look them in the eye when talking with them.

The eyes can be a very powerful weapon around other males as well. When you see a potential threat, or some other guy is trying to move in on your girl, squint your eyes a bit, and stare directly at his forehead. Squinting the eyes allows you to focus in on the threat and lowers the eyebrows resulting in a menacing look. We are all taught to look someone in the eyes when talking to them. It is considered a sign of respect. Looking at someone, then looking down is a sign of submission, another thing that as an Alpha Male we do not do. By staring at their forehead, you are saying, “I don’t respect you, I am more powerful than you, this is my territory!” For the person on the other end of the look, it can be very intimidating.

Chin Up

Keeping the chin up keeps the eyes from looking down. Looking down is a sign of submission. Holding your chin high allows your facial profile to be seen more easily by women. The Alpha Male doesn’t hide what he has, he proudly displays what he has got. By sticking out your chin you are making yourself vulnerable to attack while at the same time signaling all comers, “Take your best shot, you can’t knock me out!” Holding you head high also helps you to stand tall and keep your shoulders back.

Shaking Hands

A simple handshake determines who is dominant. When reaching out for a handshake, you can extend your hand one of three ways. You can extend the hand with the palm up, showing submission. You can extend with the hand straight up and down, displaying that you consider the other person your equal, or you can you show your dominance by extending your hand with the palm facing down. If another male tries to show his dominance when shaking your hand, you can counteract this by stepping forward with your left foot when reaching for his hand. This will cause him to pull his hand back to make room for your advance, turning his palm vertically. This will bring you to a handshake of mutual respect. But we are the Alpha male, we want to show dominance. Place your left hand, palm down, on top of the handshake, or take your left hand and grab their elbow. Both are displays of dominance over the other.

Adjusting the Crotch

A man will adjust his crotch when his junk is uncomfortable. This is usually done without much thought. However, to do this openly is both a display of power and a sexual display, “My dick is bigger then yours!” or, “Ladies! Check out my cock!” It sounds funny and stupid, but done subtly can be powerful on a woman’s subconscious.

Hands at Your Sides

Keep your hands down at your sides at all times with your palms facing out. Doing so shows a signal of openness, you are inviting a target to come talk to you. What does this pose remind you of? Jesus. Ninety percent of all images have Jesus standing with open arms, palms exposed. This invites people in. Folding your arms across your chest shows that you are closed. Guys who hold their hands do so as a comforting act, showing they are uncomfortable, or hold their hands in front of their crotch showing fear. In the bars a lot of guys will hold their drinks up at chest level. Even this move creates a barrier. Set your drink down, show the world that you are comfortable in your surroundings. Remember, open and approachable.

Cowboy

The most sexually enticing pose an Alpha Male can make is the "cowboy." This is done while standing, with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointing out, all the things we have been talking about. Place your hands on your hips, with your thumbs tucked into your belt or pants pocket with your fingers pointing in the direction of your crotch. It resembles the pose of a gun slinger from the old west getting ready for a quick draw. Sticking your hands on your hips places the elbows out, making you appear bigger. The hands on the hips draw attention to your crotch, signaling your sexual power. Standing with your legs shoulder width apart, toes pointed out, is saying that you are open for communication.

After Sex

After having sex with a woman, most men want to roll over and fall asleep, however this little tip can help make you a sex god in the eyes of women. After the deed is done, women want to talk, and let out their emotions, while for guys, we just want to fall asleep. Prop yourself up on your side with your head on your hand, looking at the girl. This will make you appear that you are interested in what she has to say, but allowing you to close your eyes and get that much needed rest. Just because you don’t care what she has to say, doesn’t mean it has to look that way.

You know who gets the most pussy in the animal kingdom, the Alpha Male. Why, because he goes around chasing the female animals and if any male gets in his way while he is trying to hump he kicks their ass. He displays dominant body language scaring off the other males, and at the same time attracts the females. He doesn’t let the other males take away the females he wants, he dominates. As you gain confidence with women and learn the pick up signals, you too will become the Alpha Male. The Alpha Male is not always the biggest, or the best looking. He is the smartest. The Alpha Male uses the tools he has to his advantage. He walks around with confidence because he is confident in himself and his abilities. Alpha Males don’t make excuses, they take what they have and make the most of every situation.

Proximity: Moving Between the Zones

Confidence is all about feeling comfortable in our own territory, our own personal space. If you feel comfortable you display signs of openness for advancement, while if we are threatened we put up a guard. Everyone reacts differently and has his own level of comfort. Just as we need to understand the clues that women signal to us, understanding personal comfort zones allow us to know if we are moving to quickly in a target’s direction.

An easy experiment you can do to test a person’s personal zone is to invade their space. Everywhere we go, every room we enter, subconsciously we determine what our space is and what the space of another person is. Generally everyone divides the space up equally among the number of people in the room. Take for example two people sitting across from each other at a table in a restaurant. Subconsciously they have each determined that they have half of the table. Slowly start invading their space. Place your keys on the table and push it towards them. Move the salt shaker or menus into their space. Take your water and place it in their half. They will do one of two things, either they will react to your threats, and start moving those objects out of their space and back into yours, or they will retreat. They will move back in their chairs, or move their plate to make more room. They don’t even know they are doing any of this unless you make them aware of the fact. They were doing all of this subconsciously. People react the same way in social situations. If a person is moving into their space too quickly, they will retreat, or take a step back to regain their space.