1.
From the moment Tess finds the little girl in the road, people doubt her. Do you? Is she an unreliable narrator? Why or why not?
2.
Discuss how Tess and Jake differ in how they handle the loss of Esperanza.
3.
Why do you think it is so important to Tess that she find the little girl? What do you think would have happened if she wasn't able to find her?
4.
Effie has been Tess's best friend since childhood. Discuss the evolution of their friendship. Do you have a friend like Effie?
5.
The Vermont setting is, on the surface, the same pristine and beautiful place Tess has always loved, but underlying this beauty is something more sinister. How is this a metaphor for other areas of Tess's life? Are there any places that you have loved that have changed in this way?
6.
Discuss the different mothers in this story: Effie, Tess, Karina Rogers.
7.
Tess repeatedly puts herself at risk in her investigation; would you do the same? How would you have reacted if you had come across a child in the middle of the road in the middle of the night? Do you agree with all of the decisions Tess made trying to find the girl?
8.
Tess wonders while searching for the girl, “I don't know which is worse: thinking that she is alone out here in the woods or that she isn't.” Which do you think is worse? Why?
9.
The psychic's advice resonates throughout the whole story. Tess is skeptical at first, but then later seeks her help. Do you believe in psychics?
10.
Effie thinks she has lost Plum in this novel; do you think that this will affect the way she parents her daughters in the future?
11.
This book is about a lot of different losses: the loss of a child, the loss of a marriage, the loss of a dream. Discuss the losses you have experienced. How have they been tempered by the things you've recovered or found?
12.
How do you think Tess's experiences with adoption and Esperanza affected her reaction regarding the little girl? Do you think she would have been so tireless if she hadn't gone through that ordeal?
13.
Discuss the police response to Tess's claims. Do you think they gave up too easily, or that they already put in more effort than they should have?
14.
Reread the portion of Yeats's “Stolen Child” at the beginning of
Where I Lost Her
and talk about how it relates to the story and themes of the novel.
15.
Did you notice that the fairy Tess tells Plum and Zu-Zu lives in the forest is also named Star? Talk about the similarities between the little girl and the fairytale Tess created.
16.
At one point, Tess argues that she's not the one who fell in love with someone else, and Jake counters that she did. Do you think she's just as much to blame for their marriage problems as he is? Do you think she cheated on him, in a way? Or do you feel that Jake's infidelity is the cause of their ultimate split? Discuss the devolution of their marriage and how it pertains to Tess's search for the girl.