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Authors: Lainie Speiser
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If one or both of you know how to play pool, that’s the easiest way to get things going, because for a lot of men, pool is like foreplay. While your girlfriend plays, you can have your time with him, when he plays, your girlfriend can fill you in on how it’s going. If you both play, lay down some quarters and take turns playing him. Make a sex bet out of it: The loser has to buy the next round of drinks, and the winner gets to fool around with two women. Lose on purpose, ladies! Playing a game is a great way for the three of you to get to know each other and get the ball rolling. You loosen up, make jokes, bust balls, and best of all check out each other’s asses when you bend down to make your shot.
Parties are a great place to pick up a guy. If you’re both at the same party, chances are he’s a friend of a friend, so it’s a safe bet that he’s not creepy or a psychopath or a sadistic murderer. As the safety value goes, I would definitely recommend this method for finding a man for two women. Everyone is a lot more social because you’re in someone’s house, and the atmosphere in general is a lot more casual.
No one will think anything of two women leaving with a man at a party. Sure, they may make jokes, but for the most part people will think that you’re all heading in the same direction. At a house party, anything can go, but again, you are in your friend’s contained environment, so nothing bad should happen.
Is It Okay to Call Him on Your Own?
You and your best girlfriend had a three-way with an adorable, funny, and nice guy last week and he slipped you his number before he left. You felt you had a moment and wouldn’t mind seeing him again on your own, but should you? Most definitely, but let your girlfriend know first. It’s not exactly asking for permission, but it’s giving her the respect she deserves.
True Story: Patrick, Naomi, and Debbie
Patrick, a set designer from California, recalls a party during which he spotted an attractive, well-endowed girl named Naomi, whom he had admired around campus but never spoke to other than the casual hello. As the gathering was winding down, the two of them ended up flirting while playing cards together. This led to a makeout session on the couch, and Patrick finally made his move to seal the deal. Naomi was not only willing but asked if she could bring her girlfriend Debbie with them. Needless to say, Patrick and the girls got into their cars and he followed them home.
“The funniest thing I remember Naomi saying before we got into our cars was, ‘I think you’re the luckiest guy in town right now,’ and I laughed and said, ‘Funny, I was thinking the same thing about you two girls! ’ “
Once at the apartment, the girls went to the bathroom to freshen up while Patrick quickly took off his clothes and waited for them on the bed. Naomi came out of the bathroom first, turned down the lights, and joined Patrick on the bed. “I said my hands were cold, and she said, ‘Well warm them up on these,’ and she put my hands on her big boobs, which I loved. We started kissing, and then her friend Debbie came out of the bathroom, took her clothes off, and joined us.”
Patrick says it was pure heaven taking turns sucking on the girls’ hard nipples and watching them suck each other’s breasts as well. They spent a long time sucking, licking, and feeling each other. Patrick still had his boxer shorts on, and the girls noticed his impressive hard-on poking through.
“I think this is the coolest thing a guy can experience. Not only is he getting it on with two girls, but he’s working them both up so badly that they’re getting demanding! I pulled out my cock and said, ‘There you go ladies, what do you think of that?’ They were impressed. It’s a good feeling for a guy to have two women impressed. They both started sucking my cock at the same time, passing it to each other, holding each other’s heads while they took turns. Amazing!
“ ‘Alright ladies, who wants to get fucked first?’ I asked, and both their hands shot up in the air, and that was really cool to see. So Debbie said she wanted to go first, and she insisted I wear a condom, which I’ve never enjoyed doing, but she insisted, they both insisted, so I did it.”
Patrick got on top of Debbie and began to ride her, while Naomi was kissing and sucking her friend’s breasts, making her come very quickly. Patrick kept on screwing her, enjoying how Naomi was holding Debbie’s legs up and giving him orders to bang her hard—until Naomi couldn’t bear to play director anymore and told Debbie to get out from under Patrick so she could ride him. Naomi rode Patrick fast and hard, and when she was on the brink of orgasm, she grabbed Debbie by her hair and thrust her tongue in her mouth.
“After that, I was a little spent, but I hadn’t come yet and I still had a hard-on, so I suggested they go down on each other while I watch and jerk off. Whoa! They didn’t like that at all. They both snapped at me and said, ‘We don’t do that!’ One thing I can tell women is, go easy on the guy so he doesn’t lose his boner okay? Don’t be so quickly insulted, be caring. Once they said no, I knew how adamant they were and said ‘That’s cool,’ and let it drop.”
Patrick put on another condom and started having sex with Debbie again, this time doggie style. This went on much longer, while Naomi put a robe on and went to the kitchen for a drink of water. During this time Patrick had his first orgasm but was in no way finished with either of them. He went to the bathroom to clean up, and when he came back he told Naomi, who was still sipping on her glass, that he was still horny and ready to roll, to which Naomi casually put her glass down on the dresser and, still
wearing her robe, proceeded to suck him off. They eventually made their way back to the bed, where Debbie was waiting for them. “I’m sure we came all together. It was explosive and draining actually. The girls collapsed and fell asleep together, and once that happened, I got dressed and went straight to work.”The mistake Patrick admits to making is expecting a connection or acknowledgement of this lusty union later. When he saw Naomi at another party weeks later, he was happy to see her and immediately approached her. She pretended she didn’t know him at all and quickly blew him off. Patrick says his feelings were definitely hurt.
“I guess it’s not supposed to be talked about, but instead put away in some kind of fuck file in your head. Once things are done like that, people like to leave them as they are. So you can’t pursue it again. Just be happy that you’re the lucky bastard who hit the jackpot and be satisfied with that.”
When choosing a man to share, you have to get a few things straight.
Number one is that the minute one of you feels uncomfortable or changes her mind, it’s over. Finished and done with, no questions asked. Otherwise, if one of you stays behind with the man, it could ruin your friendship forever. The one leaving will say, “You totally wanted him for yourself the whole time,” or the always popular, “You dumped me for a guy and put my feelings and our friendship aside so you could get laid.”
Friendship between women can be a hell of a lot more intense than between two men, or even between a man and a woman who are romantically involved, so be extra sensitive to each other’s needs and make sure you want the same thing.
Discuss how far the two of you would like to go with each other, and if you don’t want to go far with each other, how you will handle it when the man you choose tries to maneuver some breast-to-breast action between the two of you.
Will you be cool with each other afterward? Will you need to talk about it? Of course, a lot of this depends on the level of friendship you have with this woman, but for the most part I do recommend a talk before you go off on your manhunt.
Insecurity and jealousy can play into this just as much as if you were with your boyfriend or husband. How are you going to feel when the man you’ve picked up seems to pay a bit more attention to your friend than to you? If this does happen, don’t take it out on your girlfriend afterward, unless you see that she was encouraging him to leave you out, and even then only if you are absolutely certain that is what was happening. Make sure your anger isn’t just over the fact that you think your friend has better legs than you do. When you have a threesome, you must be confident and comfortable with yourself. This is definitely not the time to think you are anything less than beautiful and sexy.
But then again, you should elect a leader out of the two of you; the instigator, the rabble-rouser, the dominant woman who will send the message home to this man. Because most men who are worth their salt are gentlemen and will wait for one of you to give a real sign, don’t one of you wait for the other to do it. Work that out before you leave the house.
And speaking of signs, create a sign or a safe word the two of you can use when you want to put the kibosh on this guy or this situation, even if it’s during sex. That way no one has to worry about anything. You will both feel safe and secure.
Discuss how
you’ll both feel if you do end up going further than you ever imagined you’d go.
Women can be a lot harder to please than men. When men are horny and the company is pleasant, there really are few women they won’t sleep with. Not so for women, perhaps maybe not as much with each other, but definitely when choosing a man as their third-party playmate.
Be respectful of how long it takes your friend to find the right guy, even if it takes all night. The man you both bring home must be someone who you both like. Otherwise, if your girlfriend is not so high on the guy, she will either put all her attention on you (which you might not mind) or shrink away to where you will be more or less the only one in the mix. Remember, a ménage à trois is supposed to be about three people actively participating at the same time, so don’t cheat your girlfriend out of the best possible experience.