The Sex MANual: Uncensored (4 page)

Chapter 6

How to Give a Woman Oral Sex and Make Her Scream Your Name

Now that you are aware of how to touch a woman to make her orgasm, it is time that you took a different approach and changed up what you use to touch her and stimulate her. It is time that you learned how to use your mouth to really give her the satisfaction that she is looking for. It’s time that you learned how to give your woman oral sex and make her scream your name.

Did you know that the tongue is the most powerful muscle in the body? That’s right and now imagine using that powerful muscle on your woman’s clitoris, changing up the pace constantly and having her so dripping wet, her legs so spread that she screams your name over and over again. Sounds like the ultimate fantasy, right? Sounds like something that you would like to do to her over and over again. Well, it’s time that you did just that.

Oral sex is very important and nearly crucial when it comes to satisfying a woman because a lot of women only have the ability to orgasm from clitoral stimulation. If your woman has trouble with g-spot stimulation, then you better be the master of the clitoris if you want to give her pleasure and since the clitoris is so sensitive, containing over 8000 nerve endings, you better find out how to touch it in the best way possible. This may be the only way that you can truly satisfy your woman so you do not want to mess it up.

Women love oral sex and that is a fact, they just don’t say it because women have this preconceived notion of how they are supposed to act in the bedroom and it is false. Women are sometimes really uptight in the bedroom and they don’t always say what they want. You might be doing something totally right but you would never know because she doesn’t tell you. The opposite might also be true in that you are doing something horribly wrong but she doesn’t have it in her to tell you. You might never give her oral sex and that is what she craves the most but she never tells you. Since some women have a hard time asking for oral sex, it is best that you just go down there and do it. Not only will you please her, but also by giving her oral sex, you put the thought in her mind and guaranteed she will want to reciprocate. You not only give your woman intense pleasure but you also get some oral out of it yourself – what more could you want?

When it comes to oral sex, a lot of men feel totally clueless. They don’t know how to properly stimulate the clitoris, where their tongue should go, if they should incorporate their fingers and so on and so forth. Not knowing what you are doing during oral makes you feel totally inadequate and it also turns your woman off. She might be so ready to feel your tongue trace between her legs but as soon as it does, she might be thinking “What is he doing?” or “Does he know that this doesn’t feel good?” You don’t want to be like a deer in headlights when going south on your woman so you need to make a change. You need to learn everything about oral sex so you can give your woman an orgasm so good, she will be bragging to her friends for months to come.

Remember that you can do many things with oral sex. You don’t have to use it as a means to and end and use it as the main event for the evening. You can perform oral sex on your woman as foreplay and as a prelude to the main event. There are many things that can be done with oral and it’s time that you explored them. In order to help you on your journey to being a sex god in the bedroom, here is a helpful guide to make you become a master at oral sex:

As always, start off with foreplay. You should have memorized this step by now. Use some of the foreplay techniques that you learned earlier in order to really get her going. Pacing is key so again, start slow and gradually work your way to using some power and fast techniques on her. One of the best ways to prep her for pleasure for oral is to trace your tongue all over her body. Let your tongue play with hers in her mouth for a bit, then down to her neck, her breasts, nipples, stomach, thighs and so on. This will get her ready and wanting your tongue down between her legs even more. If she can feel your tongue on other parts of her body, she will be begging to feel it down there. Tease her before you please her.

Now that you have your woman prepped and ready, it is time that you began going down on her. Remember to go slow as always. This is the key. She is so super sensitive down there and if you start out too forceful, it might not end well. Start with some wide strokes down there. You will want to use the flat side of your tongue. Lick down from by her anus all the way up to her clitoris. This will get her even wetter and it is a great way to start off. After a few licks, she will ease into stimulation and her body won’t be so tight. Sometimes, women can react really highly to oral sex in the beginning and they might need a little break. That is okay and it is perfectly natural. It doesn’t mean that you are doing anything wrong. Just go slower and softer if need be and go off of how her body reacts. Once her back isn’t arched and she is looser in her limbs, that is when you can start picking up the pace.

The best way to give her oral sex is to use your tongue in many ways. Your tongue is versatile and capable of stimulating her with all sorts of different methods. You can use the tip of your tongue to direct pleasure on the clitoris. You can also use the flat side of your tongue and give her softer stimulation. The possibilities are endless and it is time that you explored them. As always, start slow and use your tongue to give her wide strokes on her clitoris. After you have gone up and down a few times on her all over, you will want to keep your focus on the clitoris. This is a common mistake that a lot of men make. A lot of men will allow their tongue to wander all over a woman’s body down there. Even though you might be thinking that this is really beneficial and totally driving her wild, it is doing nothing. A woman doesn’t feel much pleasure from you licking her hole. It is a waste of time and doesn’t get you any closer to making her orgasm. Avoid that time waster and instead focus all of your attention on keeping your tongue on her clitoris. This is the best thing that you can do.

When stimulating the clitoris with your tongue, there are many things that you can do. As mentioned above, your tongue is versatile and is capable of giving your woman pleasure in many ways. There are many things that you can do with your tongue during oral sex that will help her to achieve orgasm so here is what you need to do to make that happen:

ABC’s -
Who would have thought that learning your ABC’s back in the day would become so helpful later on in life? By tracing the letters of the alphabet on her body, you will surely send her over the edge. Now, you shouldn’t limit yourself here. When you think about it, there are 3 sets of the alphabet that you can use on her. The first is to trace all of the letters of the alphabet in lowercase, then to move to uppercase and eventually cursive. However, with all of these letters, she might not even hit the second half because it just feels so good that she is completely overwhelmed with pleasure.

French Kiss
– This is probably something that you never thought to do on your woman during oral sex before but French kissing can actually feel amazing for her. The reason why it feels so good is because it is slow and sensual. It is actually quite romantic for her to feel you kissing her so seductively and on a part of her body that is so sexual. The combination of your soft lips and wet tongue will be enough to drive her totally crazy. This is a good starter technique to get her to limber up.

Up and Down
– This is a pretty standard way of stimulating a woman’s clitoris with your tongue during oral sex. You can move your tongue up and down, stroking the clitoris all over and never missing a bit. You can use the flat side of your tongue to get her going and to give her small strokes. You can use the tip of your tongue to give her something rougher that will help her to reach orgasm. Going up and down is an easy technique and one that men prefer since it isn’t complicated and it is still effective.

Left to Right
– This is a more unconventional way of using your tongue during oral sex but let’s face it – there are no true rules with oral sex and even if there were, they were meant to be broken. By going left to right, you change up the pace and keep your woman on her toes. The same stimulation over and over again can become really repetitive and awfully boring. You don’t want your woman to fall asleep on you in the bedroom, so make sure that doesn’t happen by changing things up.

Circles
– If you really want to make your woman scream your name, this is an excellent way of making that happen. Circles are amazing and they are truly a foolproof way of giving your woman pleasure that is going to be out of this world. It is best to use the tip of your tongue here and to move slowly. This is a sensual and soft touch but one that is going to drive her wild. You can really get her going by moving your tongue in circles all over her clitoris. Just watch how crazy she gets.

Rick Recommends
– Sometimes, it can be hard to remember what you have done during oral and what you can do next to keep your woman interested and stimulated. A great way to keep in a routine is to perform the ABC’s on her with your tongue. This includes you moving your tongue and spelling out all of the letters in the alphabet. Not only are you ensuring that you cover every millimeter of her clitoris and that you give her insane stimulation, you make sure that you stay on track. Who knew the ABC’s would come in handy?

Figure 8’s
– This is another form of stimulation that will drive her crazy. Performing figure 8’s all over her clitoris will make her want to bite a pillow or make her scream your name, which is exactly what you want. Like with the ABC’s, you are able to stay on track and keep a routine, which is good for men and something that men benefit from. Not only do you benefit from it, but also your woman is going to be sent into pure ecstasy from this stimulation.

Rick Recommends
– Now, this tip is for the men who really want to set things on fire and to give your woman something that she is never going to forget. The 69 is one of the hottest things that you and your woman can do during oral sex. Not only do you get to taste her and have her, she also gets to do the same to you. This is a great way to get even closer and to have far more fun in the bedroom. Of course, your girl has to be cool with it but if she is, then go for it because guaranteed it is going to feel amazing for both of you.

Since you are a professional at clitoral stimulation during oral after learning these tips, it’s time that you combined them with some g-spot stimulation to really get your woman going and to get her closer to that orgasm. Almost every woman will agree that at some point during oral sex, she gets a craving for that penetration feeling. The more her clitoris is stimulated, the more her g-spot grows and grows. It grows to the point where she will either be begging for you to enter her or for you to stimulate her with your fingers. Don’t disappoint her in this moment by doing something that isn’t going to feel amazing and that she wished would much rather not happened at all. Don’t just rely on clitoral stimulation to get her through and to give her g-spot stimulation that isn’t up to par. You greatly increase your chances of making her orgasm by simply giving her amazing stimulation both with your tongue and with your fingers. When entering her body, remember the techniques that you learned earlier. Don’t just thrust your fingers in and out of her without a purpose. Move them in circles, in the “come here” motion and whatever else you need to do that won’t make the stimulation stale. By simply adding your fingers into the mix with oral sex, you greatly increase your chances of making your woman and you can easily give her something that she is never going to forget. Just because it is oral sex, doesn’t mean that you are solely restricted to only using your mouth. Use your fingers and you will see the magic happen.

By following these tips, you are going to become a master of cunnilingus and you are going to be the best that she has ever had. Oral sex can really set your love life on fire and get things back on track in the bedroom. Remember, not only do you highly increase your chances of giving her pleasure, but you also increase your chances of getting some in return.

Chapter 7

Premature Ejaculation

 How to Build Your Stamina and Last Way Longer in Bed

Not only do you want to give your woman amazing pleasure with your fingers and mouth, but you also want to do it with your own body. You want to feel that close connection with her during sex and to be able to give her satisfaction that way. This part of intimacy is something that a lot of men have trouble with because a lot of men have troubles with premature ejaculation. This can happen at any time to any man and it sure puts a damper on the rest of the night. Premature ejaculation happens unexpectedly most of the time and without warning. It is an involuntary reaction that happens in a lot of men and usually results in some self-esteem issues and sometimes even bigger issues in the bedroom. Some women may joke about early ejaculation and refer to men as “minute men” but this is no laughing matter. When this happens to a man, it greatly affects him and in a very negative way. Some men are so ashamed of their lack of performance in the bedroom that they even choose to avoid sex altogether. You do not want to get to this point and you want to find a way to rid yourself of this problem before it actually becomes a problem.

As soon as premature ejaculation strikes, men try to find a way to ensure that it never happens again. This often results in men taking tons of medications, using creams or sprays and other forms of treatment that simply do not work. They fill up their bodies with useless medications and assume that they are doing something beneficial when in fact, they are doing the opposite. No pill is going to treat premature ejaculation and this is something that men need to realize. By taking some sort of a pill, you might actually harm yourself and that is something that you want to avoid. Wouldn’t you much rather use a form of treatment that not only works in the short term, but in the long term as well and one that you can trust in?

This is when natural treatments come in handy. Now, more than ever before, we are turning to natural medicine to treat our problems. We are turning to teas to get rid of tension headaches, ginger to cure stomachaches and so on and so forth. There are plenty of natural treatments for premature ejaculation and it is time that you learned what you can do if it happens to you. If you are struggling with premature ejaculation issues right now or if you want to avoid any issues in the future, try using these treatments as listed below before you try to take on a more drastic measure:

Meditation
– Even though it may sound like a new age, hippy way of treating your problem, meditation can work wonders for your body. We live in a world where our brains are constantly overloaded with information and it forces our bodies to take the brunt of that. This can work against you in the bedroom. Having the day’s thoughts and stresses on top of your shoulders and then having to focus on lasting long enough for your woman to feel pleasure, well, you know where this is heading. Not only can meditation help you to focus and to rid your body of negative energy, it can actually help you to last for hours in the bedroom.

Some men who practice meditation religiously are able to last for hours upon hours in the bedroom. You have probably heard of the singer Sting and how he is a master of tantric sex. Well, that all has to do with meditation. It all has to do with mind over matter and putting your mind in control of your body. Too many men have it the other way around where their minds are weak and unable to control their bodies. Meditation allows you to learn how to put your mind back in the driver’s seat and take control over what is yours. Wouldn’t you want to learn how to last for hours and hours in the bedroom and completely ravage your woman? Try practicing meditation and see how it can benefit you. It is harmless to try and you might be surprised by the results.

Masturbation
– Yes, that’s right. Masturbation. Pleasing yourself a few hours before sex is one of the best things that you can do to last longer in bed. Yes, you are still reading this right. Masturbation might actually act as your savior if you are looking for a quick fix for your early ejaculation issues. If you know that you might be getting lucky tonight, please yourself a few hours before you do the deed. Ejaculating helps to put your body in the refractory period. This is a stage in the male orgasm that inhibits you from having another orgasm. Women don’t have this which is why they are able to have multiple orgasms and men cannot. After you orgasm once, your body needs to rebuild and refuel. Your sperm count needs to rejuvenate, which makes it hard for you to go again. You can still maintain an erection but you have to work even harder to orgasm again. This can be really beneficial for you in the bedroom and help you to last way longer.

Sleep
– This is one of the more common reasons why men have to deal with premature ejaculation. They are tired. When you are tired, your body and your mind are on a disconnect. This can make it hard for you to control yourself because you are not strong enough. When your body is weak and fatigued, you know that your reflex time is way down and that you just aren’t “all there”. When you make love when you are tired and you feel your orgasm approaching, there isn’t a chance in hell that you are going to be able to stop it. Try getting at least 8 hours of sleep a night. Your body and your mind both need it. If that is impossible for you to do, try to grab at least a 30-minute power nap. You will be amazed at how well it works.

Tingling Lubricant
– If you are in a crunch, haven’t gotten sleep, aren’t able to masturbate and meditation has failed you, this can be your back up plan. Using a lubricant that offers you a tingling sensation not only benefits you but it does a lot for your woman as well. The tingle sensation can actually numb your penis and desensitize it. You will still feel pleasure, but it won’t be as intense. You will be able to last longer and without much effort. Using a lubricant such as this can really work in your favor.

Rick Recommends
– In addition to using the tingle lubricant as a way to avoid premature ejaculation problems, try putting some on your woman’s clitoris as you are having sex. While you are busy entering her and thrusting to give her pleasure, the tingle will get to work by stimulating her clitoris. This is a hands free way of giving her pleasure and she will want to use that lubricant again and again, never knowing the true reason why you were using it in the first place.

Slow Down
– This is probably one of the more important tips that you need to remember. A lot of men have issues with premature ejaculation because they dive right into sex without spending much time during foreplay. Now, not only are you rushing sex, you are finishing faster and your woman isn’t as prepped as she should be. You read about the importance of foreplay earlier so now it is time that you actually put it to good use. Spending more time on your woman before you make love can help you in two ways – it gets her closer to orgasm and it slows down your orgasm. You can still be aroused while you are stimulating her to get her aroused, but you will notice that your desire to orgasm and the rate at which you do will be slowed down. By spending more time on your woman, you get rid of that pressure to please her solely with your penis. Get her as close to orgasm as you can and then make love. You’ll notice she will climax much faster and you will last longer. Why? You get rid of that burden on your shoulders to be the man and to last long enough to please her. By slowing down, you can rid some of the stress and pressure that you feel.

Diet & Exercise
– This is one tip that goes without saying. The healthier you are, the better your body will work. If you are eating right, sleeping right and exercising regularly, you can really make a difference in your performance in the bedroom. You need to take your health seriously. If you are constantly eating junk food and not ever exercising, of course you are going to encounter problems. By giving your body the nutrients that it needs and by keeping your body in shape, you will last much longer in bed.

Avoid Alcoho
l – You may have heard of the term “whiskey dick” which refers to how a man is able to remain hard for hours but unable to climax due to his intake of alcohol. This may sound tempting and sound like something that you want to do in order to prevent yourself from being embarrassed by your performance or lack thereof. However, drugs and alcohol are never the answer. You should avoid alcohol as a means of treatment. There are far better and more natural ways of treating premature ejaculation so use some common sense while trying to alleviate your problem and this will help you out much better.

Pump It
– No, we are done talking about masturbation. This is all about hitting the gym for a quick testosterone boost before you have sex or even just hitting the ground and getting a few push ups going. Anything that you can do to stimulate your hormones is a good thing. Testosterone will get you all pumped up, feeling like a man and acting like a man. A quick workout at the gym will get your body pumped up and will help you to feel better about yourself. This translates into good vibes in the bedroom and wakes that body of yours up. It gives you a good boost and will help you in the bedroom.

Squeeze |It
. When you feel like your orgasm is approaching hard, pull out and squeeze the tip of your penis. This stops blood flow from continuing, and as a result, will send your orgasm back into your body. You don’t have to squeeze very hard, but just by putting a solid amount of pressure, you will be able to last longer.

Tug It Out
- Keeping in tide with the suggestion above, when you are close to orgasm, your testicles start to tuck up into your body in preparation for ejaculation. Stop this process and tug your testicles away from your body. Again, this is something that you don’t have to do very strongly in order to get great results. Give yourself a few extra seconds by using this technique.

Have Fun
- At the end of the day, sex should be fun and not taken so seriously. You’d be amazed at how your stamina changes when you are having fun and not worrying. That stress isn’t doing you any good so get rid of it by changing your outlook on sex. Men take sex so seriously and women are the ones who just want to feel that connection. If you can change your view on sex and make it something more positive than negative, you can change your stamina and for the better.

Try using these natural suggestions before you take drastic measures. Again, these are just guidelines to help you by taking a homeopathic approach to treating premature ejaculation. If you do feel like you need extra assistance and that the problem isn’t going away, then it is wise to seek medical help from a professional. Don’t ever use a treatment that has to do with medicine without seeking the help of someone who knows what they are doing. Buying pills, creams or sprays online from unauthorized sellers is a bad idea, no matter how desperate you are. You don’t want to cause long-term damage so avoid it at all costs.

Remember that at the end of the day, your woman still loves you, no matter what is happening to your body. Don’t be so hard on yourself if premature ejaculation is prevalent in your life. It can be fixed and it can be fixed easily.