The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want (29 page)

  Take her pulse.

  Ask if she salsas, or does any other dance, and dance with her. Don’t ask if she wants to; just lead.

  If she gives you any shit, take her hand, put it on your chest, and say, “Oh, you’re breaking my heart!”

  Try arm-in-arm leading as you move from bar to table or dance floor.

  As you tease her, try friendly poking, prodding, tickling, play-fighting, nudging—all great, playful ways to kino-escalate.

Sexual Tension Techniques

Here are some techniques for heightening sexual tension that are purely physical. Others that are verbal, or a combination of verbal and physical, appear in the “Sexual Spikes” subsection, below.

  
Finger playing
. When you’re holding hands, play with the woman’s fingers and see if she reciprocates. This is surprisingly sexy and a great test.

  
Hand squeezing
. Squeeze her hand and see if she squeezes back. This is a great indicator that the kiss close is definitely on.

  
Triangular gazing
. This is a method of making her think in a sexual way. Look at her left eye, then the right, then the lips. One second on each. Repeat.

You can escalate kino in two ways, sexually and playfully. The best way to escalate with a friend or a girl from your social circle is to playfully test out her receptiveness, instead of making a high-pressure move to sexually escalate. Sexual escalation, as the name implies, has a sexual intent behind it. Playful escalation seems safer to girls who already know you because it’s what brothers and sisters do. But it’s also what boyfriends and girlfriends in a comfortable relationship do, so it’s a great way to escalate and trigger enjoyable feelings of sexual tension.

Sexual Spikes

Often, you can physically escalate the kino to get a girl primed for a kiss close. But you can also use verbal escalation to get her in the mood and bring in some sexual tension. Most guys won’t do it, or at least won’t do it smoothly. Here are some routines and lines that can be used:

  “Cool, you’re my new girlfriend.”

  “You look like you’re imagining kissing me.” This is a good one, because it isn’t asking if she wants to kiss you, but if she responds positively the kiss is on. If she wasn’t imagining kissing you already, she will after this. Watch her look at your lips! Then you can say, “Okay, now you are.”

  Take her pulse. Then say, “I knew it: you are attracted to me.”