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Authors: Sarah Gorham

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Neriage, or What Is the
Secret of a Long Marriage?

 

Once upon a time, a lump of clay was lifted from the earth by human hands. The clay was rolled into a sphere, a wormy coil, then squashed flat again with fingers and toes.

Marianne Ellison was born in 1892, in Hamburg, New York. She weighed just six pounds and immediately began to peer around. All was light and shadow, but fascinating.

Henry Piper was born two years later, a few doors down from Marianne. He had a crown of thick black hair and an operatic voice that carried down the corridor and into the street.

Because clay is impure, it must be kneaded, or “wedged,” with a steady pushing and rocking motion. Sometimes a bubble appears in the conchlike folds, spreads, weakens, finally bursts. Seeds, pebbles, roots, pinecone chips like curses or objections, all dispersed. The clay is soon homogenized, filled with a mysterious energy, smooth and springy as the predawn surface of a pond.

Marianne was a precocious child and an even more impressive adult. Her qualities? A tendency to react quickly, flushing deep
scarlet all the way up to her ears. An inability to sit still, rising from her seat four times at least during a meal to grab silverware, wine, or water. A penchant for collecting miniatures, for organizing, for saving her favorite part of a meal for last. A love of short novels that satisfied but allowed her to get on with her day. Moving, doing, perseverance, loyalty.

Henry's graces? Charm, social ease, a sense of humor that mixed low with the elevated. An addiction to music, tobacco, meat, bread, sugar. Extreme focus, whether the task be budget percentages, bicycle routes, or the repair of a screen door. Builder of bookcases. Forgetter of birthdays, errands, and the names of relatives beyond his primary family. Watching, being, intelligence, big hands.

Imagine a landscape of one continuous hue. Imagine clay fired year after year to a monotonous brown. It wasn't long before someone thought to add iron, cobalt, manganese, creating difference—pattern and color.
Neriage
, a Japanese term meaning “to mix,” involves blending layers of multicolored clay to form teapots, vases, bowls, any vessel a person might wish.

Black is Saturn, diamonds, lead, error, falsehood, in blazonry—prudence and constancy. Red is Mars, fortitude, divine love, the metal of war, rubies, martyrdom, charity. Neriage is a wedding of opposites, hot and cold, flexible and resolute.

Marianne first met her neighbor Henry by a pond brimming with duckweed and tree frogs. She was seventeen, he fifteen, and each was seeking reprieve from the inner weather of their respective homesteads. Born of preacher and postman, respectively,
Marianne and Henry were known villagewide as the independent sort, remarkable for their curiosity and acumen.

They married in a garden, surrounded by Portlandia, Star of the Nile, Will-o'-the-Wisp, though the roses were burlap-bundled against the cold. Marianne wore a black skirt with matching jacket. Henry's suit was also plain, his one reckless move a crimson handkerchief. Their Lutheran minister had reservations about the young couple. Could they endure what lay ahead? It was storming in the South, though the rain held off for their simple ceremony.

Side by side:

her reticence

his humor

her acceptance

his suspicion

her optimism

his irony

Neriage is all about parceling out the goods fairly, then putting them back together. In the beginning were stripes, then checkerboard, pinwheels, zigzag, and so forth. Finally, the highly complex
bokuryu
, or “flowing ink” style. But most patterns begin with two colors of opposing hue, hunks of red and black clay, sliced with a cutting wire into slabs. Positioned on lengths of clean canvas. Intact, separate.

It was as if each room were divided into two.

Her space was small, formal, sharp cornered. A bookcase behind the door, diaries and novels piled on every available surface, but artfully, like fancy cakes. Two ancient desks arranged
into a practical L: one in dark-stained oak, the other English pine with a worn spot where a farmer once rested his foot. On the wall, she hung printer's boxes to display her miniscule tea-pots, scissors, spoons, and thimbles.
Everything in its place. This is not The Box!
(What exactly did that mean, printed in bold?) She longed for a dictionary stand.

His territory was more complicated. Drawings, drafts, and pithy tributes gathered dust in boxes—his desk no longer visible for the piles of books and crumpled paper. Even his leather bag bubbled and gushed with wire-rimmed reading glasses, file folders, mail he simply couldn't bear to throw away. He bought clocks and toy cars on special order, setting some of them aside for resale. Though not obvious to the observer, he had a system. Once he found a tax-refund check for $116 he'd used for a bookmark, now several years beyond its expiration date.

Initially, the clay resists fusion. Some say pigments are to blame, each a unique chemistry that encourages autonomy, insularity. Others claim the slabs have begun, quite naturally, to mature—an hour of clay time is two years in human time. As it interacts with air, dust, water, each piece develops a skin, a definite self-sufficiency.

Saturday morning, before the chores were done:

—What a mess. How can you live like this. Why don't you throw this stuff away.

—It's my mess. Please get out of my mess.

—But your mess is all over the place. Can't you clean it up?

—It's my mess. Leave my mess alone.

Sometimes he sketched, spread out on her couch, coffee mug in a liquid mocha ring on her bookshelf, shoes splayed, socks bunched up, then she didn't know what to do with herself and skittered back and forth like a child unseated in a game of musical chairs. He was startled to find his cars arranged in a parade across the windowsill, polished to a military shine. She had ruined them! One night, he was forced outside under the stars to dig through the trash for an early draft of a speech that now seemed better than the revision. In a burst of cleaning, she'd tossed it out.

Ethologist Jean-Jacques Petter recognized the human need for rivalry, naming it
noyau
, or “society of inward antagonism,” which like an alloy, gains strength from the interior clash and meld of dissimilar components. Paul Fussell calls it the “versus habit.” The Japanese have in-yō.

Masters of neriage understand that art and love both begin with violence. They put aside their squeamishness and break the clay's resistance—desecrating, or scoring, each slab. A fork does the quickest work, the sharper the better. Scraped vertically, horizontally, no corner left untouched. Then sweep a damp brush coated with slip over the cut surface, softening, coaxing.

For Marianne, it was the loss of her mother, who died of tuberculosis. A stubborn woman, she was fearful of hospitals and allowed the disease to advance unimpeded. Marianne loved her immeasurably, had so much left to ask, and yet stood by helplessly as her mother lay parched and rasping on the bed. For Henry the pivotal event was his sister's suicide by drowning,
though tragically, she was an excellent swimmer. After a week of searching, she was found in neighboring Lake Muscatine, fully clothed, bricks and big stones in her coat pockets. In both cases, the funerals were private functions, though friends slipped boxes of food, notes, and flowers onto their porch. One left a basket containing a bulldog pup, whom they embraced, naming him Arthur.

Over the years adversity continued on and off, tearing, tempering. Henry and Marianne nearly lost their first child to peritonitis; their second fell in love with a destructive boy, who eventually committed a murder. Marianne developed early arthritis. At the tender age of forty, she found herself unable to write by hand, though she could type, pecking with one or two fingers. Henry was stalked by an unstable student, a war veteran, who finally had to be institutionalized.

There was good fortune too: an invitation to study in Rome, a financial windfall from a state granting program, newborn nieces, nephews. Their youngest was the first in her class to attend an out-of-state university with a full scholarship. She made the transition from small town to busy metropolis brilliantly, sending postcards full of exclamation points. The eldest set up a law practice in town, the only lawyer who would, when necessary, accept paintings, a dental exam, or a half-hog in lieu of payment. Marianne and Henry enjoyed his bounty too, filling their freezer with frozen raspberries and tubs full of chicken rice soup.

her outbursts

his restraint

her anxiety

his faith

her flexibility

his willfulness

The masters instruct: Nestle red on black, black on red. Listen for the suck of connection, they explain. Slice a new set of slabs, score, brush with slip, repeat, repeat, repeat, until you have a tower of red and black. Compress with the force of a hard rain, a good freeze. Flip the stack onto its side, pile up your shims, and once more, draw your wire through the clay. This is the aha moment when the singular pattern reveals itself. Note how well the stripes have knit together, elongating, swaying like geological striations or Venetian marbled paper.

After time and sufficient pressure, any boundary will fail to hold up. Unpatrolled, they leak, tributaries of river silt irrigating the fields, tendrils of campfire creeping across the dirt. Human characteristics too—of habit, perception, even physical appearance—leap their borders, muddy the outlines between man and woman, woman and man.

It's impossible to map this terrain, to explain why the clay gives in one spot and resists in another.

The Pipers merged their vast book collections, and any doubles (of Tennyson, Thoreau, James) were given away. She lost interest in classical music when jazz came along; they both adored June Christy and Fats Domino most of all. Henry began to cook and she sat back, enjoying his Swedish meatballs, garlic and lemon trout, and seeded breads. They invented a new language and embarrassing nicknames for each other, which they sometimes used in public:

spodie

caucus

pintel

gutcheon

hunca

munca

He finished her sentences. She supplied the word
putative
when it slipped his mind, if not at the moment then a few hours later. He so understood her need to leave a party early, he too became itchy and sullen at nine o'clock. They both sunk into a gloom during heavy rains, took turns reassuring the other: it's just the weather. Which became their explanation for any mood, dark or light: the miserable glorious weather. They tore a huge hole in a wall and filled it with glass, though it ruined the house lines and (a neighbor complained) opened their living room to the street.

In neriage, what is created from two distinct terrains is a fresh, negotiated
third
space. Each blended slab is unique: little landscapes of black hills and red canyons, red crests and black silhouettes, hot and cold rivers zigzagging side by side. A master handles the patterned slabs carefully, draping one into a mold as if nestling a newborn into a bassinet. Or wrapping another around a rolling pin to form a vase, stripes tumbling down like lava on volcanic rock.

A third space, cozy, warm, animal. Composed not exactly of shared palates, or preferences for Cubism. Not the one slate roof and nine-over-nine windows that sheltered the Pipers. Not jobs at the same university, not children. Not specific things, hers or his or theirs. Nor was it visible, this space, though they spent more and more of their time in it. A third space that expanded over the years, that seemed to travel wherever they went. More at home there than in their real home. More comfortable there than under their own skins.

“Can you give me the recipe for your beautiful glaze?” Such are the questions that plague Matsui Kosei, named Living National
Treasure for decades of work in nerikome, as neriage is sometimes called. No one knows the secrets to his particular technique, and no one will. “My colors are the colors of the future,” he has been known to say.

What is the secret of a long marriage?
Marianne and Henry's seventy-nine-year marriage came close to the longest in U.S. history (eighty-three years) and the world record (eighty-seven years), held by Karam and Kartari Chand from Bradford, United Kingdom.

They had more than six dozen children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. Their offspring composed one-third of the population of the town they settled in. More than seventy relatives attended their seventy-fifth-anniversary celebration, which was held in the very same rose garden they married in. It was later in May, and the Portlandias were in bloom. A gravel path surrounding the sundial was overwhelmed by thick, aromatic lilacs, and phlox bubbled over raised beds.

What cacophony, this mélange of Ellison noses and stubby fingers, Piper close-set eyes and long legs, black Piper tresses tied back with barrettes, strawberry Ellison crew cuts! Their Lutheran minister had long since died. His son settled the crowd with a sweep of his hand and launched into his homily.

“Clay lay in the earth millions of years,” he began.

PERFECT
Ending

Makes you want to begin, again.

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