The reticence of the dutiful daughter (Frieda is in her midforties) trying to make sense of her family history is riveting. Frieda is still trying to bring her parents back together again; all children of ruptured love stories want to. She speaks of the distortion of Plath’s character and work by strangers, and in her stunning self-control you feel her pain. “The collection of the
Ariel
poems became symbolic to me of this possession of my mother and of the wider vilification of my father,” she calmly says.
The reference, clearly, is to self-appointed defenders of Sylvia Plath who never knew her or Hughes, perhaps never even read their work. Plath’s gravestone in Yorkshire was often defaced to obliterate “Hughes.” What a child named Hughes might make of this we can only guess. “Criticism of my father was even leveled at his ownership of my mother’s copyright, which fell to him on her death and which he used to directly benefit my brother and me,” Frieda notes. “My father’s editing of
Ariel
was seen to ‘interfere’ with the sanctity of my mother’s suicide, as if, like some deity, everything associated with her must be enshrined and preserved as miraculous.... I did not want my mother’s death to be commemorated as if it had won an award. I wanted her life to be celebrated.”
I once took the brunt of the Plath industry’s assault myself. Talking about her poetry and suicide at the Poetry Center of the 92nd Street Y in 1971, I was picketed by an angry posse because I refused to mouth the feminist orthodoxy of the time, that Hughes had
murdered
Plath. That Plath had a history of breakdowns in her college years was of no interest. My hecklers wanted to believe that a cruel husband done ‘er in, whatever the “facts.”
And the facts were hard to come by. Ted Hughes was shellshocked himself, and wanted to hide. He was also in love with the poet Assia Wevill, who committed suicide in 1969; their daughter also died by her mother’s hand. Her suicide is often thought of as a copycat act (indeed, the method was the same). Reading about Plath and Hughes, I often feel I am watching a Shakespearean tragedy where most of the cast lies dead on the stage before the curtain comes down.
Aurelia Schober Plath, Sylvia’s mother, must have felt angry and betrayed by both Sylvia and Ted. But surely she loved her grandchildren. Olwyn Hughes, the children’s aunt, was called back from her life in France to help raise them. They were miraculously alive, after all, despite the gas, and Sylvia was dead. What would you do?
So the Hugheses walled off. They declined to let anyone reprint Plath, set Plath to music, novelize Plath, or perform Plath, except under their strict supervision. Three years ago, the Manhattan Theatre Club asked me to do a Plath poetry evening and the Hugheses refused to give permission for a reading of the poems by actors.
Maybe they were constrained by other contracts, but where openness was wanted, they closed down. And they’re still careful. The Plath sanctuary remains guarded, now with the help of Frieda, who has complained about the film version of her mother’s life and who wrote in a poem of her own, in the book
Wooroloo
(1998): “Wanting to breathe life into their own dead babies / ... They scooped out her eyes to see how she saw / And bit away her tongue in tiny mouthfuls / To speak with her voice.”
Frieda Hughes has had the courage to bring her mother back, not as a symbol but as a poet. Plath’s poems are now published in their original versions and will have the last word. They remain remarkable. Their time has not passed. The new generations who read them may not care about their biographical underpinnings the way we did in the sixties, but they will care about their strength and craft.
We can see in this new edition what a careful constructor of poems Plath was. She weighed her commas and semicolons. She cared about what Denise Levertov and Allen Ginsberg call “breath units.” She must have read her poems aloud to hear them in the air. It is touching that they were mostly written at four in the morning—“that still, blue, almost eternal hour before cockcrow, before the baby’s cry, before the glassy music of the milkman, settling his bottles,” as Plath put it for the BBC two months before she died, for a program that was never broadcast. “If they have anything else in common, perhaps it is that they are written for the ear, not the eye: They are poems written out loud.”
I adopted this habit too, when my daughter was an infant. I love that sky blue-pink hour, do my best writing then and read what I’m writing aloud to myself, especially poetry. But the suicidal women poets who make up my heritage still trouble me.
Sylvia’s suicide puts her clearly in the tradition of women who feel they must die for their transgressive acts, like Madame Bovary or Anna Karenina. In 1974, the year after I published
Fear of Flying
, the dazzlingly gifted poet Anne Sexton committed suicide too, wrapped in her mother’s fur coat, inhaling carbon monoxide in the backseat of her car in Weston, Massachusetts. She had become a friend of mine and had written in my copy of
Live or Die,
“Yes, yes, let’s live!”
I remember the night at the Algonquin Hotel that I sat and held her hand as she drank vodka gimlet after vodka gimlet and I struggled to keep up with her. She flirted with the waiter in case I left and she needed a companion. She would not let go of my hand. Finally at 3:30 a.m., I broke away, hoping she could sleep. I don’t know whether or not she fucked the waiter.
These two daredevil poets opened the road for me. Then they closed it in another way by their self-inflicted deaths. I loved their poetry and abhorred their deaths. I wanted to smash that paradigm. Why must women artists die for their talent and self-assertion?
I never knew Sylvia Plath, but Anne was a generous mentor to me in the two years before she died. Once, when I wrote to her about my terror of publishing a second book of poems, she answered:
Don’t dwell on the book’s reception. The point is to get on with it—you have a life’s work ahead of you—no point in dallying around waiting for approval. We all want it, I know, but the point is to reach out honestly—that’s the whole point. I keep feeling that there isn’t one poem being written by any of us—or a book or anything like that. The whole life of us writers, the whole product I guess I mean, is the one long poem—a community effort if you will. It’s all the same poem. It doesn’t belong to any one writer—it’s God’s poem perhaps. Or God’s people’s poem. You have the gift—and with it comes responsibility—you mustn’t neglect or be mean to that gift—you must let it do its work. It has more rights than the ego that wants approval.
So the people who come before you transmit the energy, the chutzpah, the fearlessness. This is a community effort. “Books continue each other,” as Virginia Woolf, another suicide, said in
A Room of One’s Own.
You are not doing it all alone. You are standing on the shoulders of the dead. You are writing love letters to the grave. The word is a link in a human chain. You are not in this lifeboat without provisions.
Why did I hate their suicides with such vehemence? Because it seemed that every time a woman transgressed—whether in writing honestly or in embracing her sexuality—she had to punish herself. I wanted to change that. I wanted to make the world a place where women could write about their lives and live.
And what a remarkable life it is! I remember once sitting next to Carolyn Kizer on a chartered bus going to a poetry festival in Massachusetts in 1972—after my first book of poetry was out, but before
Fear of Flying
hit and changed my world. We were sitting two by two right behind the bus driver, who didn’t
seem
to be listening to our conversation.
Carolyn regaled me with hilarious, possibly apocryphal, stories of famous writers she had met at literary festivals. Carolyn could be absolutely acid about the role of the woman writer as muse and literary cunt. We were allowed to be anything but colleagues.
“And then, I woke up, with Norman Mailer sitting on my face.”
The bus driver suddenly swerved off the snowy road and came to a stop in a shallow ditch. Carolyn and I were both convulsed with laughter.
“But what happened after that?” I asked when I realized we were going to live.
“I have absolutely no recollection,” Carolyn said. “I must have had too much to drink.”
“If one woman were to tell the truth about her life the world would split open,” Muriel Rukeyser had written. If proof was needed of Muriel’s veracity, this was surely it.
Dear Sylvia,
Suppose I’d gone home with Ted? What would have happened? Would I have ended up committing suicide like you and Assia
?
I doubt it. For all my bouts of depression, I’m not inclined that way. I think growing old is more courageous. Living past your looks, your youth, and your wavy mane of hair takes real guts in a world that worships youth and disdains the witchiness of older women.
But Ted was a force of nature
—
a walking talking demon lover—and he knew it. You not only kissed him but bit him on the cheek, drawing blood. You were determined to leave your mark on him. Biting him was also a communication. It said: “You may be a demon lover but I am a powerful witch. My magic is stronger.”
You were more of a witch than he was a warlock. To have the openness to death of your late poems, you must have had immense sexual clout. The two of you must have made the world rock on its axis when you fucked. That must have been at least half the appeal. The world split open and sucked you into its fiery core. He stayed behind but was fated never to be free of you. I could not compete with that so I fled.
Some writers are destined to have immense charisma not only in their writing but also in their lives. Byron was one. Hemingway was another. Ted was another. Anne Sexton another. You clearly had a form of female charisma that terrified men.
I think it’s confusing for the writer to embody her message as much in her personality as in her work. She never quite knows what people are responding to—the words or the icon.
We stress icons in our contemporary world because our culture has become increasingly visual. Also, we no longer have clear standards for literature. Except for a few bookworms like you and me, nobody cares about literature. I published a novel about Sappho only to discover, to my horror, that a lot of readers had no idea who Sappho was. We have jettisoned ancient history from most curricula—saying it was all about “dead white males”—so we lost Sappho as well. Would we be in Iraq if people still read Herodotus and Homer? Maybe. But at least we would see how the absurdities of history repeat themselves. Weak leaders make wars to get the people to follow them. For thousands of years, tyrants have been imprisoning dissenters, saying: It’s unpatriotic to disagree with your leader in wartime. Hitler’s brain, Joseph Goebbels, said: Give the people an external enemy to hate and they will follow you anywhere. George W Bush’s advisers did their home-work, but most people have not.
When you were alive, there was still the possibility of being an author and disdaining TV
.
Now, that’s another kind of suicide. We emphasize personality rather than work in our world. One has to be photogenic, unafraid to chatter with idiots on the screen. What on earth would Emily Dickinson have done in the world according to Paris Hilton?
We scarcely trust the woman who has a public persona and yet publishers demand it to sell books. Charisma is rare yet we want it as a device for PR. What contradictory qualities we demand from writers! Women writers have a particularly hard time because there is no way to be a public woman without being considered a bitch, a whore or a diva.
You didn’t live long enough to deal with all that.
What interested me when I first read the Ariel poems was how you broke out of the decorous good-girl role. You confronted the world directly with your own searing rage. It was about time a woman raged on the page. And you gave us all the courage to do it.
Ted was your demon. He opened you up. No wonder you both hated and loved him. I found him fiercely attractive. But in the end my loyalty was to you.
Without adultery, is there no novel? Without sex, is there no poetry? Surely sexual energy and creative energy feed each other. Often they feel the same.
Sexual energy provokes creativity. Do poets fall in love to write about it, or does love impel creativity?
Body of a woman, white hills, white thighs, you look like the world in your posture of surrender.
Pablo Neruda writes this in the first of his
Twenty Poems of Love and a Song of Despair. For the poet, the
lover becomes the world. The exploration of love becomes an exploration of life. Blood and love are the substance of poetry. What transmutes mere words into flesh? The power of sex. “‘Living and writing in heat’—and in fact the artist’s experience lies so unbelievably close to the sexual, to its pain and its pleasure,” said Rainer Maria Rilke, “that the two phenomena are really just different forms of one and the same longing and bliss.”