Authors: Betsy Prioleau
48 Art, he theorizes: See Geoffrey Miller,
The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature
(New York: Doubleday, 2000), 258–291.
48 “visible signature”: Quoted in Rockets, “Sexual Success and the Schizoid Factor.”
49 “an archaic prototype”: Paglia,
Sexual Personae
, 45.
49 cave paintings: Weston La Barre, “Shamanic Origins of Religion and Medicine,”
Journal of Psychedelic Drugs
11, nos 1–2 (January–June, 1979).
49 “the songs of the night”: Otto,
Dionysus
, xvi.
49 “Mick the Magic Jagger”: Laura Jackson,
Heart of Stone: The Unauthorized Life of Mick Jagger
(London: Blake, 1997), 58.
49 He puts a sock: Ibid., 49.
50 “her very own Dionysus”: Quoted in ibid., 75.
50 “male opposite”: Quoted in Marina Warner, “Lucian Freud: The Unblinking Eye,”
New York Times Magazine
, December 4, 1989.
50 “the greatest living realist painter”: Quoted in ibid.
50 “astonish, disturb”: Quoted in ibid.
50 Married twice: “Lucian Freud: The Life,”
Independent
, May 30, 2002.
50 Every woman cited: Simon Edge, “Lucian Freud the Lothario,”
Daily Express
, August 6, 2009.
50 He quoted poetry: Ibid.
51 Freud the artist: Rowan Pelling, “A Woman of Easel Virtue,”
Independent
, April 17, 2005.
51 “felt like being an apple”: Quoted in Edge, “Lucian Freud the Lothario.”
51 “the most primitive form”: Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma
, 26.
51 “Don’t Fence Me In”: Cole Porter, “Don’t Fence Me In,” Warner Brothers, 1944.
51 renegade souls: Philip Rieff writes, “A charismatic is he who makes a break with the established order.” Philip Rieff,
Charisma: The Gift of Grace, and How It Has Been Taken Away From Us
(New York: Vintage Books, 2007), 160.
51 “irresistible magnetic mana”: Quoted in Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma
, 26.
51 an intangible “apartness”: Roach,
It
, 8.
52 phallic Hermes: Norman O. Brown,
Hermes the Thief: The Evolution of a Myth
(New York: Vintage Books, 1969), 34.
52 Perpetual wanderer Dionysus: Euripides, “The Bacchae,” in
The Bacchae and Other Plays
, trans. Philip Vellacott (New York: Penguin, 1954), 214.
52 “eccentric” rover: Knut Hamsun,
Mysteries
, trans Gerry Bothmer (1891; New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2006), 3.
52 Even the exemplar: Ibid., 165.
52 “Bombay Casanova” Ormus Cama: Salman Rushdie,
The Ground beneath Her Feet
(New York: Picador USA/Henry Holt, 1999), 190, 177.
53 “own master”: Giacomo Casanova,
History of My Life
, trans. Willard R. Trask (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1997), vol. 2, chap. 2, p. 33.
53 “I rebel”: Albert Camus,
The Rebel: An Essay on Man in Revolt
(New York: Vintage, 1956), 22.
53 “It’s his way”: Albert Camus,
The Myth of Sisyphus
, trans. Justin O’ Brien (1955; New York: Vintage International, 1983), 74.
53 Women found him: Herbert R. Lottman,
Albert Camus: A Biography
(Corte Madera, CA: Gingko Press, 1997), 125.
53 “managed to keep them”: Olivier Todd,
Albert Camus: A Life
, trans. Benjamin Ivry (New York: Carroll and Graf, 1997), 413.
53 Fabled lover, iconoclast: Sara Wheeler,
Too Close to the Sun: The Life and Times of Denys Finch Hatton
(London: Jonathan Cape, 2006), 203.
53 “like a centripetal force”: Quoted in ibid., 32.
54 “at least eight women”: Ibid., 22.
54 Finch Hatton “belonged”: Errol Trzebinski,
Silence Will Speak
(Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1977), 156.
54 “As for charm”: Beryl Markham,
West with the Night
(New York: Farrar, Straus, and Giroux, 1942), 120.
54 invention wasn’t original: Trzebinski,
Silence Will Speak
, 156.
54 “like a meteor”: Quoted in ibid., 156.
54 “The flaw that punctuates”: Hillary Johnson, “The Flaw That Punctuates Perfection,”
Los Angeles Times
, November 30, 2001.
55 Roach traces: Roach,
It
, 17.
55 “straddling characteristics”: Schiffer,
Charisma
, 30.
55 “The things I find”: Erica Jong, “The Perfect Man,” in
What Do Women Want
(New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 1998), 173.
55 Bader probes: See Michael J. Bader,
Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies
(New York: Thomas Dunne Books/St. Martin’s Press, 2002), 140.
55 “a way to get inside”: Johnson, “Flaw That Punctuates Perfection.”
55 “disease of God”: Quoted in Oakes,
Prophetic Charisma
, 26.
56 emotionally or physically damaged man: Mary Jo Putney, “Welcome to the Dark Side,” in Jayne Ann Krentz, ed.,
Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women of the Romance: Romance Writers on the Appeal of the Romance
(Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 1992), 101.
56 Readers can find: See “Wounded Heroes,” Listmania, www.amazon.com/Wounded-Heroes/lm/1W95CIQLARZYP (accessed October 23, 2009).
56 “delicate prongs”: Rebecca Silver, “Fearful Symmetry,” in Lonnie Barach, ed.,
Erotic Interludes
(New York: HarperPerennial, 1986), 225.
56 Hardy Cates: See Lisa Kleypas’s two novels about Hardy Cates:
Sugar Daddy
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2007) and
Blue-Eyed Devil
(New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2008).
56 “divine defect”: Edward Craig,
Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Questions to Sociobiology
(New York: Routledge, 1998), 60.
56 “Great seducer” Jack Nicholson: Phrase from book title, Edward Douglas’s
Jack the Great Seducer
(New York: HarperEntertainment, 2004).
56 “King of Hollywood”: Quoted in ibid., 221.
57 “I saw such a wonderful”: Quoted in ibid., 268.
57 “old Jack Magic”: Quoted in ibid., 6.
57 “gentle giant”: Quoted in Ann Pasternak Slater, “Introduction,” in Ivan Turgenev,
Fathers and Sons
, ed. Elizabeth Cheresh Allen and Constance Garnett (New York: Modern Library, 2001), xii.
57 Tall and stoop-shouldered: Avraham Yarmolinsky,
Turgenev: The Man, His Art and His Age
(New York: Orion Press, 1959), 41.
57 Ignoring his mother’s curses: V. S. Pritchett,
The Gentle Barbarian: The Work and Life of Turgenev
(New York: Ecco Press, 1977), 86.
57 “Christ”: Quoted in Yarmolinsky,
Turgenev
, 57.
57 “enigmatic tang”: Schiffer,
Charisma
, 44.
58 “much more bizarre”: James A. Donovan, “Toward a Model Relating to Empathy, Charisma, and Telepathy,”
Journal of Scientific Exploration
11, no. 4 (1997), 455, 464. Also see full article, 455–471.
58 “to the back burner”: Quoted in Mark Greer, “The Science of Savoir Faire,” January 2005; and Carlin Flora, “The X-Factors of Success,”
Psychology Today
, May/June 2005.
58 “forbidden impulses”: Becker,
Denial of Death
, 135.
59 Can men en masse: Rieff,
Charisma
, 105.
59 Biologist Amotz Zahavi and others: Zahavi contends that higher-ranking women pick men who are honest advertisers in courtship. For good summaries of his view, see Joann Ellison Rodgers,
Sex: A Natural History
(New York: W. H. Freeman/Times Books/Henry Holt, 2001), 221–223; and “Deceit versus Honest Signaling,” www.animalbehavioronline.com (accessed May 14, 2012).
For studies that show charisma can’t be faked, see researcher Nada Gada’s work discussed in Greer, “Science of Savoir Faire,” and psychologist Howard S. Friedman’s affective communication test, which measures charisma. Friedman concludes, “Truly charismatic people are authentic.” Winter, “How to Light up a Room.”
CHAPTER 2: CHARACTER: THE GOODS
60 “Character alone is worthy”: Andreas Capellanus,
The Art of Courtly Love
, trans. John Jay Parry (New York: Columbia University Press, 1960), 35.
61 “Good moral character”: Geoffrey Miller,
The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature
(New York: Doubleday, 2000), 293.
61 Claude Adrien Helvétius: Jules Bertaut,
Égéries du xviiie siècle
(Paris: Librarie Plon, 1928), 147.
61 “Apollo”: Quoted in “Introduction” in C. A. Helvétius,
De L’esprit or Essays on the Mind and Its Several Faculties
(London: J. M. Richardson, 1809), vi.
62 “Look like this man”: Quoted in Bertaut,
Égéries
, 148.
62 “joined more delicacy”: Quoted in ibid., 149.
62 “greatest happiness”: Quoted in Darrin M. McMahon,
Happiness: A History
(New York: Grove Press, 2006), 217.
62 Unalloyed virtue: For this insight and study, see Helen Fisher,
Why Him? Why Her?
(New York: Henry Holt, 2010), 206.
62 Medieval amorists: Capellanus,
Art of Courtly Love
, 35. Here Capellanus writes, “ ‘Beauty alone never pleases if it lacks goodness,’ and it is excellence of character alone which blesses a man with true nobility.”
62 “Honesty [and] virtue”: Robert Burton,
The Anatomy of Melancholy
, ed. Floyd Dell and Paul Jordan-Smith (New York: Tudor, 1927), 631.
62 “No love without goodness”: Baldesar Castiglione,
The Book of the Courtier
, trans. Charles S. Singleton (Garden City, NY: Anchor Books, 1959), 335.
62 Solomon believes: See Robert C. Solomon,
About Love: Reinventing Romance for Our Times
(New York: Touchstone Books/Simon & Schuster, 1989), 240–246.
62 women seem to be of two minds: This is a contentious issue, with a number of contradictory studies. For the female preference for male kindness and sincerity, for nice guys, see David M. Buss,
The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating
(New York: Basic Books/HarperCollins, 1994), 44–45; and for the contrary view, see Mason Inman, “Bad Guys Really Do Get the Most Girls,”
New Scientist
, June 18, 2008.
62 “that old-fashioned quality”: Erica Jong, “The Perfect Man,” in
What Do Women Want?
(New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 1998), 172.
63 polarized choice: See Edward Horgan, “Exceeding the Threshold: Why Women Prefer Bad Boys,”
Exposé: Writing from the Harvard Community
(2011), 1–14, expose.fas.harvard.edu/issues/issues_2011/horgan.html (accessed January 26, 2012).
63 Miller speculates: Geoffrey Miller, “Virtues of Good Breeding,” in Miller,
Mating Mind
, 339. Also see 292–340.
63 “You enjoy helping those”: Steven Pinker,
How the Mind Works
(New York: W. W. Norton, 1997), 400.
63 “giver of good things”: Norman O. Brown,
Hermes the Thief: The Evolution of a Myth
(New York: Vintage Books, 1947), 23.
63 “too reckless” Cuchulain: Norma Lorre Goodrich,
Medieval Myths
(New York: Meridian Books/Penguin, 1961), 186.
63 Female readers always rate: According to a recent poll conducted by the Orange Prize for Fiction, 1,900 women voted for “Mr. Darcy as the man they would most like to go on a date with.” Cherry Potter, “Why Do We Still Fall for Mr. Darcy?”
Guardian
, September 29, 2004.
63 “You showed me”: Jane Austen,
Pride and Prejudice
(New York: Middleton Classics, 2009), 317.
64 “with kindness”: Quoted in Lydia Flem,
Casanova: The Man Who Really Loved Women
, trans. Catherine Temerson (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1997), 217.
64 “sweetness of character”: Charlotte Haldane,
Alfred: The Passionate Life of Alfred de Musset
(New York: Roy, 1961), 67.
64 “extraordinary, good person”: Quoted in Suzanne Finstad,
Warren Beatty: A Private Man
(New York: Three Rivers Press, 2005), 350.
64 “fornication and bastardy”: Peter Guralnick,
Dream Boogie: The Triumph of Sam Cooke
(New York: Back Bay Books, 2005), 229.
64 “woman’s man”: Ibid., 496.
64 “genuineness”: Quoted in ibid., 101, 142.
65 He had erotic crackle: Ibid., 210.
65 “never crass, never vulgar”: Ibid., 195.
65 “Lady, you shot me”: Quoted in ibid., 619.
65 “a real gentlemen”: Quoted in ibid., 361, 275.
66 “needn’t be such a saint”: George Gershwin, “Boy Wanted,” WB Music, 1924.
66 “will tame”: Ovid,
The Art of Love
, trans. Rolfe Humphries (Bloomington: Indiana University Press, 1957), 137.
66 “All true desire”: Robert Bly,
Iron John: A Book about Men
(New York: Addison-Wesley, 1990), 132.
66 Women, in a recent study: Cited in Mark Tyrrell, “Fortune Favours the Brave (and So Does Dating),” Uncommon Knowledge, www.uncommon-knowledge.co.uk/dating.html (accessed March 17, 2011).
67 Men, too, have special terrors: For more on this, see Wolfgang Lederer,
The Fear of Women
(New York: Grune and Stratton, 1968); and Karen Horney, “The Dread of Women,” in Harold Kelman, ed.,
Feminine Psychology
(New York: W. W. Norton, 1967), 133–146.
67 As the Romans said: Ovid,
Art of Love
, 124.
67 Another explanation is more erotic: Social anthropologist Fernando Henriques claims that one of the purposes of male contests for brides was to arouse women. See his
Love in Action: The Sociology of Sex
(New York: E. P. Dutton, 1960), 156–163.
67 Sumerian “Fearless One”: Quoted in Diane Wolkstein, “Inanna and Dumuzi,” in
The First Love Stories: From Isis and Osiris to Tristan and Iseult
(New York: HarperPerennial/HarperCollins, 1991), 52; and “Dumuzi (Tammuz): Lord of Love and Fertility, the Divine Bridegroom,” www.gatewaystobabylon.com/gods/lords/lordumuzi.htm (accessed 3/27/2009).