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Virtue, Doreen.

Assertiveness for earth angels : how to be loving instead of “too nice” / Doreen Virtue. — 1st edition.

pages cm

ISBN 978-1-4019-2880-3 (hardcover : alk. paper) 1. Success.

2. Assertiveness (Psychology) I. Title.

BJ1611.2.V57 2013

158.2—dc23

2013022689

Hardcover ISBN
: 978-1-4019-2880-3

16   15   14   13   4   3   2   1
1st edition, November 201

Printed in the United States of America

To the power of God, which
resides within you and everyone
.

CONTENTS

Preface
: Earth Angels and Conflict Phobia

Introduction
: What Does It Mean to Be “Assertive”?

PART I: Assertiveness Basics

Chapter 1
: It All Began with the Original Trauma

Chapter 2
: How to Be Assertive

Chapter 3
: No More Rescuing: Boundaries Without Guilt or Fear

Chapter 4
: How to Be Nice and Loving, Without Being a Pushover

Chapter 5
: Communication Skills for Earth Angels

Chapter 6
: Getting Rid of Guilt and Worry

Chapter 7
: Be Your Own Authority Figure

PART II: Developing Assertiveness in Relationships

Chapter 8
: Earth Angels and Relationships

Chapter 9
: Toxic Relationships: How to Recognize and Handle Them

Chapter 10
: People Aren't Fixer-Uppers

Chapter 11
: Enjoy Life, Instead of People-Pleasing

Chapter 12
: Karmic Relationships

Chapter 13
: Parental Assertiveness with a Strong-Willed Child

Chapter 14
: Assertiveness with Authority Figures

PART III: Being Assertive Out in the World

Chapter 15
: Fitting in and Worthiness

Chapter 16
: Peaceful Excitement Instead of Drama

Chapter 17
: It's Safe for You to Be Powerful!

PART IV: Life Tools and Guidance for Earth Angels

Chapter 18
: Energy Work for Empaths

Chapter 19
: How to Have More Time and Energy

Chapter 20
: Angel Activists

Afterword

About the Author

P
REFACE

Earth Angels and Conflict Phobia

I was at a dinner party with several famous spiritual authors. Across from me was a well-known television psychic, and sitting next to her was Esther Hicks (of Abraham-Hicks fame). I was uncomfortable because the psychic had publicly disparaged my work in the past, but I sat there anyway, pretending that everything was okay and trying to make pleasant conversation with her. But she didn't play nice with me, and everything she said to me felt like a put-down. Finally, the psychic looked right at me and announced loudly to the table, “I just hate people who love unicorns and rainbows!”