The Secrets Of Female Sexuality (3 page)

These women really opened up and taught me things that fascinated me. They spoke of their sexual past and their fantasies. I learned a great deal about the secret sexual lives and thoughts of women from all of those conversations. That's when I really started to understand the underlying sexual potential that exists within women.

My beliefs about women began to be shattered and totally rewritten. I became even more fascinated with the minds of women.

Women are not that complicated after all. It’s just that we don’t understand them. And that is completely understandable seeing that social conditioning had lied to us. Even some of the so called, “sex

experts” had unintentionally misguided us through their own ignorance.

I am trying to get you to begin to understand women and to begin to rewrite your beliefs. When you truly begin to understand women, they are no longer intimidating, but instead, they are absolutely fascinating and thoroughly enjoyable.

The interesting thing is that even at that time, during my “phone sex period,” I began to understand that what I was doing was something very novel. I was onto something that nobody knew about. There was nobody that I could talk to about this, because nobody could even comprehend that it was even possible.

And I had absolutely no idea at the time that I would end up teaching this stuff. For me, at the time, I was on the beginning of a long learning curve that would prove to be the beginning of a fascinating journey.

The reason that I was beginning to be very good at it is because I genuinely had a passion for it. That is key.

There is the classic belief that a large penis is the key to satisfying a woman.

When those recently divorced women from my phone sex era told me how their husbands were such boring lovers, I asked them, "Did he have a small penis?" and they replied, "Well, actually, no." When they told me of their exciting lover that they had an affair with, I asked them, "Did he have a big penis?" and they replied, "Well, actually, no."

That is when I first started to question the contribution of penis size.

When the internet started to become popular, I met women online. I met a number of married women who were looking to have an affair because they were tired of getting skewered by their husband's big cock. They found their times with me to be "refreshing," as well as multi-orgasmic.

Even now, I have ex-girlfriends coming back for more while telling me about their current lovers with large dicks, saying, "But he doesn't make me feel what I used to feel."

Here are some actual emails that I have received from men (who had not yet purchased any of my Masterful Lover products):

I have been either blessed or burdened with a big penis. The woman I am with now has lots of trouble taking in the whole thing.

She said it feels like it's bottoming out most of the time, to a very tender area inside, leaving her with a very uncomfortable feeling.

If in the missionary position, if I slide in slowly, she's ok.

I can't go hog wild because it hurts her, but if I don't go hog wild then I find it hard to maintain an erection.

She has never had a vaginal orgasm. She has only had orgasms through clitoral stimulation.

I've been working with her trying to get her to orgasm in the "G spot" area, with no success yet.

Do you have any suggestions or positions that would make sex more enjoyable for her and me?

In reply to your email, I would say to you: She is not having orgasms in intercourse, so what's in it for her? The same old routine every time and she never comes. It gets boring. And the regular impaling against her tender cervix becomes downright irritating. It gets really old.

To give her her first vaginal orgasm, use your 3 1/2" long middle finger on her deep spot. Which isn't that "deep" actually, it's just "deeper" than the G spot. Once you do that, she'll be much more receptive to intercourse. But you're still going to have to choke up on your bat.

Here's another email:

my girl has never had an orgasim. i have had sex with her four miserable times doing what i thought was "good" but failing miserably. How do i change the current from what was done to what should be done, causing her to have multiple orgasims and having her trust me despite my last performance? i have a big cock but, this is really humbeling to write you about my shortcommings, but not only do i need to change precendence verbally but more imporantly, physically.... going to buy your stuff bro, need help!!

You can tell a lot about a person based on whether they use an upper-case 'I' or a lower-case 'i' to refer to themselves.

Here's another email:

I recently got with a 23 year old female who told me that she has never gotten an orgasm from any guy whose

penis size is under 10 inches. I told her that I was an 8 and one night when we were having sex she said that she wasn't feeling any orgasms any time soon, so we stopped. I felt weird and tried finding new ways to give her an orgasm. What can I do to make her have a mind blowing orgasm that will make her forget all about a man's size?

In reply to your email, I would say to you: You may have always thought that you were big, but she's got you thinking that you're too small. She's good, and you're being a wimp.

She said that she has never had an orgasm from any guy under 10 inches. You took her challenge even though you didn't measure up. That puts you in the wimp position. You should have simply said, "Sorry Honey, can't help you, I'm only an 8."

Or is the order of things said in your story a little different? I can imagine a man trying to impress a woman by saying "I have an 8 inch cock" and then the woman cutting him down to size by replying with, "I've never gotten an orgasm from any guy who's under 10 inches." She doesn't take you seriously anymore, and thus she is not going to respond to you in bed.

Frankly, I'm surprised she went to bed with you. She was probably curious to see what it was like to be with an 8 inch cock. Evidently disappointing.

And here's an email from a client:

David, I am having the most incredible sex, as often as I want, and of course, I am giving her the best sex of her life and she can't get enough. And do you want to know the one thing she always asks me? She'll look at me after I've just taken her, or given her an orgasm over the phone, or told her that I was going to fuck her in her office, or anytime I am direct and tell her what I'm going to do? She looks at me expectantly and asks "you're never going to change, right? This isn't some sort of trick? You'll always be this way, right?"

She had two orgasms the other night before I even got in her all the way. I just stuck the head in and let it sit there and she had two -- just from the head.

This is, of course, a hot girl that is used to having men pursue her and wine and dine her, take her on private airplanes to movie premiers, etc, etc, etc.

David, life is good. Life is oh, so fucking incredibly good.

Thanks for showing us the way.

Movies, television shows, stories, what other people told us, what our parents told us, what women told us, all that “social conditioning,” told us that we had to talk women into having sex. It almost made it seem as if sex for a woman was a chore she performed, an obligation she fulfilled, only as a reward for us spending money and attention on her.

That single misguided piece of social conditioning had me perplexed for years.

For me it was a belief that was hindering me; a self sabotaging belief. I was determined to crush it by finding the truth, and then to replace that belief with empowering beliefs based on reality.

I began to realize that all the social conditioning was not jiving with what was actually happening in reality.

During my 20s, most of my girlfriends absolutely loved sex. It’s not that they initiated it, but they would hint at it and then the moment I would initiate it, they would jump on it. And then in my marriage, my wife had to have it every single night. From my point of view, it appeared that women loved sex.

So in my phone sex phase after my divorce, I tried a cruel experiment. Some of those women that I talked with on the phone, I met up with in person. We’d meet at a neutral place, have a drink, and then go to her place.

What I would do is I would get her naked on the bed, and then I’d hesitate. I’d stall for as long as I could. If she persisted further, I’d tell her, “I’m not really ready for this yet” or, “I think maybe this is moving too quickly.” Basically, I was purposely NOT going to have sex with them, just to see what would happen.

What happened is they got PISSED! Either they’d be insulted and start sulking, or they’d cuss me out. One woman even called me a coward! I made peace with them, got back on their good side, and then obliged them. And then they went at it to such a degree as to make themselves look selfish.

I laugh now as I remember back on it, but it proved something very important to me:

Women actually WANT to have sex! Not as a reward to ‘a nice guy,’ but simply because WOMEN LOVE SEX!

That, along with the stories that women shared with me over the phone, along with all the factual evidence from reality, clearly showed that not only do women love sex, but in fact women are far more ‘sexual’ than men.

Further evidence of this can be found in any woman’s fantasy book, such as “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Friday. That will open your eyes. Women have elaborate intricate fantasies beyond anything men can imagine. For women, it is largely mental and emotional, and about being “taken” and “ravaged.”

So, more accurately...

That does NOT mean that women want to be raped. Certainly NOT! Rape can potentially destroy a woman’s sexuality for life.

But in the context of consent, mental stimulation, emotional rapport, and trust, women love to be taken and ravaged and fucked hard.

I always thought that women only liked to “make sweet love.” And they certainly sometimes do, as do I. But they sometimes also like to get fucked! So I started doing that. And they got crazy!

I pushed the envelope even further. While fucking them hard, I would start to talk dirty. They got crazier!

During my last two years of college, I had a college sweetheart who I found to be very cute and sexy. She also happened to be very intelligent, very high self-esteem, and extremely sexual.

We had very good sex. We did it often and always had simultaneous orgasms.

One day she said to me, “As you know, I love horses. Well, I also admire how they are very animalistic when they have sex. And when we do it doggy style, I sometimes imagine that I am a horse and that I am being very animalistic.”

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. But of course I said, “Oh good Baby, I love that you are able to feel animalistic.”

I had certainly heard that women like to be “animalistic.” I never really thought that they went as far as to imagine they were an animal!

So, the next time we did it doggy style, I said to her, “Oh yeah Baby, you are being very animalistic!”

She got even more excited. I couldn't believe I was saying this.

I took a big gulp of courage and I said, “You are so animalistic, just like a horse. Whinny like a horse!”

She started making horse noises! And she started going crazy! What do horses do? Whinny? I dunno.

I continued, “Oh yeah Baby, make like a horse! You’re getting fucked like an animal!”

She went ballistic. She started screaming in orgasmic ecstasy.

I couldn't believe it. It was so “foreign” to me. But hell, it worked, and very powerfully. Truth is found in reality.

My next girlfriend had no interest in horses, but she did like to be animalistic. I altered what I said to fit the situation. It worked amazingly well.

I was onto something. I varied it further with each subsequent girlfriend. I moved it from being animalistic to being slutty. That worked even better.

I found that the more vulgar and raunchy I got, the more excited they would get.

I pushed the envelope even further. I would see how very naughty I could make them be.

I would make a fantasy scenario where she is a very naughty little school girl who was caught masturbating, and I am the mean disciplinary principal. I would spank her and tell her how naughty she is and how she needs to be disciplined. “You’re being very naughty! You will learn to be a good girl! You are being so naughty, but you want to be a good girl! Come like a good girl!” This would consistently result in powerful orgasms.

One woman I dated was the executive assistant for the president of a huge corporation. She was very proper, conservative, and wore Liz Claiborne suits. She owned a condo on a lake. I would take her out to the beach and fuck her on the picnic table where anyone with binoculars could see. I told her, “You love getting fucked where everyone can see you. You are so very naughty!” Then I brought her into her condo and fucked her in every room of her house telling her, “You love to get fucked! You can’t get fucked enough!” She would almost lose consciousness with the long string of orgasms.

I wanted to see how naughty I could make them be, even to the point of doing very taboo things.

Anal sex has always been a man’s fantasy, but I thought women didn’t want to have anything to do with it. How wrong I was.

I would make them feel very naughty, and then I’d use that to tell them that they are even naughtier because they want to be very taboo and get fucked up the ass.

Then I’d train them to have anal orgasms and then I’d fuck them up the ass! Very taboo.

I had read stories about women being tied up. So I tried that.

I would tie her hands to the bed posts so that her arms were outstretched and she was restrained to the bed, unable to get away. Then I’d remind her how she is so very helpless to me and I intend to do with her as I please and have my way with her.