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Authors: Alyssa Shelasky

Apron Anxiety (31 page)

Alexi and I meet up on the first warm evening of spring, a Monday, his only night off, and sit outside for wine and a few flatbread pizzas. He looks like an Italian immigrant straight from Ellis Island, with translucent white skin, raven black hair, and a five o’clock shadow that could make a grown woman cry. He’s incredibly composed, much more intelligent than most of the sexy things I’m drawn to, and seriously committed to his critically adored cuisine. We have a wonderful conversation about the future of the New York City food scene, share
a smoky carafe of red wine, and after kissing good night on a SoHo street corner, I get on the subway, hoping he asks me out again. “Alexi
is
yummy,” I text our mutual friend.

We spend a few more Mondays together. They each pass in a woozy haze, always consisting of one impossible restaurant reservation, two killer orgasms, and a three-o’clock-in-the-morning cab ride home with a smile on my face and thong in my clutch.

I don’t dare ask for more of his time. He likes that I know the drill—that I’m not expecting a date every Saturday night, that I don’t pester him for midweek dinners, movies, or spontaneous picnics in the park. Fortunately for him (less fortunately for me), I’ve been the other woman to a restaurant before.

On our fifth Monday, Alexi asks me to join him at a downtown, carnivorous hot spot. As we catch up on our week while holding hands across the table, I amaze myself at how I can actually keep up with most of his culinary musings. Had we met even a few weeks earlier, many of his interests would be way over my head. Pondering the menu, I mention that I won’t eat anything involving bone marrow or sweetbreads. “You know I’m still a culinary prude,” I say, hoping to sound cute rather than uncultured. In the same breath, I order the tripe. When the waiter walks away, Alexi says, “I’m shocked that you like tripe!” My answer? “Really, why? I love fish.”

When the dish comes, I know that I’ve embarrassed myself. The following day, I go to Eataly and ask the butcher what the hell I had forced myself to swallow. “Cow tummy,” he says with a grin.

The next week, Alexi changes things up a bit, and arranges for us to see a movie at a downtown film festival, suggesting that afterward we hit the opening night for the most talked-about restaurant of the year. What a hot date, and my editors
at
Grub Street
will be so impressed! I shop all day long for the right outfit to wear on such a fabulous night, and end up buying a short, silky nude-colored dress from a high-end boutique in my neighborhood. It’s a bit provocative, but I’ve been working out so much at SoulCycle that I want to show off my legs. The salesperson whispers that she just sold the same dress to Maggie Gyllenhaal, my fashion hero, and this closes the deal without further dread over the price tag. A few hours later, I throw on scarlet red Louboutins and dry my hair to look long and windblown. Spring is in bloom and so am I.

The movie is unremarkable, but sitting so close to Alexi compensates for it all. Truthfully, I am wary about any real future together—food is not just his career, it’s his absolute airstream—yet I adore him and can say for sure that my inner fire is ablaze. The film ends around midnight, and even though I’m starving, all I want to do is skip dinner and slip out of our clothes. I hint at this, but he’s obviously excited about seeing his friend’s new restaurant. “Don’t you worry.” He winks. “Our night is just beginning.”

On the cab ride over, he mentions that we’re not dining alone, which I never even thought to ask about. We’ll be sitting with foodie royalty: a handful of elite chefs, restaurateurs, journalists, and sommeliers. “You know, like,
ehhhveryone
,” he says. Oh great, here we go with the obnoxious
ehhhveryone
 … again.

I think he’s trying to impress me, knowing I’m growing my career in food writing and trying to infuse my world with as many knowledgeable people as possible, but he’s got it all wrong. This social structure is anathema to me. I have no interest in being on display as some popular chef’s arm candy. Not anymore, at least. But soon enough, we’re heading straight into the eye of the storm—the hard-core, cliquey, New York food “industry” scene.

I quickly reassure myself how far I’ve come. I think of all the meals I made at the El Royale, my New Year’s Eve feast, the endless grazing days at Eataly, the big-ticket interviews for my
Grub Street
byline, and the victorious Valentine’s Day
moules
. I even arm myself with an opening line, something fun I just learned from the popular food blogger Restaurant Girl: “Did you know tiramisu was originally called ‘a prostitute’s pick-me-up’ because of all the sugar and caffeine?”
I’ll be okay
.

We pull up to the restaurant just past midnight and I’m shocked at the mobs of people inside and out. “Can you feel the energy?” Alexi asks, paying the cab driver with a crisp bill. To be honest, I feel like puking. Hand in hand, with him leading the way, we make our way through the front door, past the crowds and to the corner VIP booth, which is spilling over with culinary somebodies, the same not-so-friendly faces that made me uncomfortable at food festivals with Chef.

My dress has no place in this anti-glam crowd, where almost everyone has chosen a life of food over everything else, especially fashion. It looks like I’ve tried way too hard, but there’s nothing I can do.
I was supposed to be on a hot date … what do they want from me?
When we get to the coveted corner table, it’s packed tight, and a few courses have already been served. I take the crammed seating as a blessing and hope that we can leave, maybe make some naked paninis at my place and be private. But my date asks everyone to move over for me: “You all know Alyssa, right?” He’s being pulled in a million different directions and wants me to be comfortable while he checks out the industrial equipment and reconnects with a decade of kitchen pals.

I wiggle myself into the table, accidentally flashing my underwear to the crowd. “Oops! At least I’m wearing some!” I
tease. No one laughs but me. Everyone is looking down, clinging to their iPhones, frenetically tweeting about meat pies and plywood. “When did tweeting become the new chain-smoking?” I joke to the sommelier to my left. “Well, I think we all have a responsibility to share these high-level culinary experiences,” she replies, dead seriously.
Oh, okay
.

I try to remember that
I’m the special one
, but right now, I’m also the starving one, and I know I won’t find any inner glory until I’m nourished. I don’t care if it’s a Michelin-star chef or Mister Fucking Softee, someone needs to feed me. There’s nothing on the table except some critically acclaimed corn-bread, which a pastry chef and a food publicist are analyzing like it’s the secret to immortality. I grab the basket and pound two pieces.

It’s noisy and everyone is talking over me. Satiated at long last, I try to join another conversation, one about wineries in Tuscany … or is it Tuscans in wineries? I can’t really hear. I awkwardly interrupt and say that I’m vying for a press trip to Siena. No one looks up. At least with celebrities, they
pretend
to care. There’s some back and forth banter about a legendary restaurateur’s farm in Martha’s Vineyard. I actually know who they’re talking about, so I announce that I’m from Massachusetts and that my friend had her wedding right across the street from his property. An older woman responds, “Speaking of, Alyssa, I’m confused. Which chef are you with now?”

A year ago, I would have been too fragile to withstand a comment like that. But I take her crassness as jealousy and let it slide. Although her herb-encrusted dagger
does
stop me from trying to fit in with everyone—not because I feel bullied or bitter, but because I’m bored to death.

Before the plates of “ironic” fried chicken arrive, close to
one o’clock in the morning, I discreetly tell Alexi, who has finally come back to the table, that I have a big day tomorrow and need to head home. I twist myself out of the booth and wave good-bye to the gourmands. He follows me outside, encouraging me to stay and apologizing for leaving me alone for so long. While changing out of my Louboutins and into the ballet flats I wisely stashed in my bag, I tell him not to worry, and I truly mean it. I am not mad at all. This scene is his home and he’s killed himself to get here. But for now, I’m cool with just writing about it.

As I walk away, through the streets of the Village, looking for fresh air and maybe a falafel, I am oddly unfazed by the experience of being ignored or insulted by the foodie mafia. I will always meet people who don’t like me, or don’t
get
me, who think I’m dressed like a high-class hooker or raised by wolves. But as all the women I’ve ever admired would say, “At least you’re interesting enough that someone gives a shit.” Which reminds me: There will always be people who think I’m not interesting enough at all.

Just down the block, I see a crowd of people in Washington Square Park. Even though it’s late, and the park can be a rough-and-tumble environment at night, I sense some good music and the reporter in me sails over. As I get closer, I hear “Sittin’ on the dock of the bay …” It’s one of my favorites. So I walk faster. I make my way through a crowd of forty or so, and see that in the middle of everything, there’s an old, soulful black man on the guitar, a weirdo white guy with an Afro and ripped overalls on the drums, and a gypsy-faced, songbird couple who are either rockers from the seventies or escapees from an asylum (or both).

Together they’re all jamming to a mixture of folk and funk,
and it’s fabulous. I join the circle of yuppies, vagabonds, street-cart vendors, prostitutes, and perfect couples, and we’re all loudly singing along, “Sittin’ on the dock of bay, watching the tide roll away …!” When someone starts Smokey Robinson’s “My Girl,” an NYPD officer with ruddy cheeks and a big belly taps me on the shoulder and twirls me around and around, and for some reason, I think of Jean and I sing even louder. The crazy songfest is the most uplifting New York moment I’ve ever experienced, and suddenly, I am belting out “Here Comes the Sun,” by the Beatles, and sobbing. Forget the dinners, Twitters, Bellinis, bylines, and boys.
This
is life.

Eventually, I drag myself away. It’s almost three o’clock in the morning, and the moment couldn’t possibly get better. The entire cab ride home, quietly humming Bruce Springsteen’s “Thunder Road,” because that’s what was being played when I left, I can’t stop wondering if these highly emotional experiences find me, or if I find them.

Lying in bed, I decide to stop seeing Alexi romantically, at least for now. He is not the warm washcloth on my face that I require from a relationship. And I think that part of me, maybe, believed that being with him provided a chance to prove that I
could
endure life with a chef. A second act. Because deep down, there will always be a sense that I failed so miserably the first time. But I have to grow up. If it’s redemption that I’m looking for, that’s something I need to resolve from within. And should I decide that I
do
want such a sweet and vicious life, thumping in narcissism, sleeplessness, and unspeakably good sex, I already know the white-smocked schmuck I want to live it with.

The next day my mother e-mails me, wanting a full recap on the date, as she always does: “So? How was it? Whatcha eat?”

I write back: “Mom, I ate the bear.”

Gentleman Caller’s Onion and Cumin Quiche
SERVES 8
Quiche sounds a lot more complicated than it is—it’s really just two parts: the crust and the filling. You can buy premade crust, but it feels so good knowing you made the entire thing from scratch. This recipe is adapted from
Chocolate and Zucchini
(Broadway Books, 2007). I follow the crust instructions religiously but sometimes experiment with other cheeses, or throw in potatoes or asparagus, depending on what’s fresh at the market. It’s delicious for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, or for entertaining
special
company. The filling can be made a day in advance, or you can make the whole quiche a day ahead, then reheat it for 15 minutes in a 350°F oven to revive the crispiness of the crust
.

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