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Williams, Kate. A parent's guide for suicidal and depressed teens : help for recogniz- ing if a child is in crisis and what to do about / Kate Williams. p. cm. Includes bibliographical references. ISBN 1-56838-040-2: $11.95 ($17.95 Can.) 1. YouthSuicidal behavior. 2. Parent and teenager. 3. SuicidePrevention. 4. Adolescent psychology. I. Title. HV6546.W55 1995 362.28'0835dc20 94-46390 CIP
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If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness, and the willingness to remain vulnerable ANNE MORROW LINDBERGH
Foreword By Denise M. D'aurora, M.Ed.
Part One: Recognizing the Crisis
1. The Downward Spiral: Recognizing A Cry for Help
2. The Grim Reaper: Looking at Your Own Feelings
3. The Last Taboo: Talking Directly about Death
Part Two: Taking Action
4. Help Is There for the Asking
5. Dial 911: Taking Action
6. Inside the Heart of Despair: Asking for Support
7. Courage: Giving Your Child Support
8. Drowning in the Romance of Death: Fighting Back
9. Chemical Balance: Learning about Drugs
10. Tough Love: Preparing for New Behaviors
11. Honest Eyes: Making a Commitment to Family Therapy
12. Hope. Breaking the Negative Cycle
13. It's a Jungle Out There: Looking at Other Issues
14. It Takes Life to Love Life: Self-Care for Parents
Part Three: Dealing with Adolescent Issues
15. The Family Community: Coming of Age
16. Changes: Adolescent Loss and Grief
17. Tied Up in Knots: Stress
18. Fiery Zits and Sudden Outbursts: Anger
19. Depression: The Heavy Cloud
20. Just to See You Smile: Caretaking
21. Fast Cars and Designer Jeans. Gender Pressures
Part Four: Facing Difficult Life Situations
22. The Two Fires: Divorce
23. Choices: Sexuality and Self-Acceptance
24. A Puzzle with a Missing Piece: Adoption
25. Waters Closing Over: Birth Secrets
Part Five: Accepting Recovery as a Reality
26. A New Picture: Creating a Manageable Family Life
Appendix A: Suicide Warning Signs
Appendix B: Your Lifestyle Profile
Appendix C: How to Tell When Drinking Is Becoming A Problem
By Denise M. D'Aurora, M.Ed.
When I was approached about writing the foreword to A Parent's Guide for Suicidal and Depressed Teens I did not know that the book was written from Ms. Williams' experience as a parent whose child was both depressed and suicidal. As a family therapist, I was increasingly gratified to find as I read the book that the author offered genuine insight into the treatment of depressed adolescents and practical help for families in crisis.
I was interested in reading the book for many reasons. Chief among these is that I encourage and suggest reading to my clients as an adjunct to therapy and am always looking for quality books to recommend. Although there is no dearth of personal growth literature available, much of it is unremarkable. Kate Williams' book is an enormous exception to this.
As Ms. Williams states, "Books about depression and suicide . . . tend to be clinical and descriptive. They tend to talk about 'clients'. . . the advice tends to be unusually vague, like 'Listen."' Her own needs as a parent were for support, for information offered at a level sensitive to her feelings, and for