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365 Ways to Live Happy

365                                       
ways to                                       

Live
Happy

Simple Ways to Find
Joy Every Day

Meera Lester

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TO MY READERS:

If happiness is the meaning and
purpose of life as the great philosopher
Aristotle supposed, then we must be
happy for all that comes into our life,
for even misfortune blesses us if it
builds our character and strengthens
our faith in pursuing that which is
good and noble.

CONTENTS

                   
Introduction

Chapter
1 Be Happy with Yourself

Chapter
2 Seek Meaning and Purpose to Have a Happy Life

Chapter
3 Attract and Build Happy Relationships

Chapter
4 Build a Strong and Happy Family

Chapter
5 Take the Healthy Path to Happiness

Chapter
6 Put Your Career on a Happy Track

Chapter
7 Learn to Be Happy Dealing with Finances

Chapter
8 Find Moments of Happiness in Crisis

Chapter
9 Be Happy on the Road

Chapter
10 Find Happiness Pursuing Your Dreams

Chapter
11 Promote Happiness at Your Workplace

Chapter
12 Exercise Your Way to a Happier You

Chapter
13 Spend Deliriously Happy Hours on a Hobby

Chapter
14 Stay Happy When Dealing with Adversaries

Chapter
15 Let Animals Bring Happiness into Your Life

Chapter
16 Plan Several Happy Celebrations During the Year

Chapter
17 Let Happiness Flow from You to Your Community

Chapter
18 Find Happiness Helping Children

Chapter
19 Lead Others to Happiness

Chapter
20 Discover Ways to Spread Happiness in the World

                    
Appendix: Websites

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

For Paula Munier, whose mind is a restless voyager
drawing inspiration from every nook and cranny of life, and who
stands as an inspiration and an exemplar of happiness
to all of us who know her.

For Andrea Norville, whose excellent organizational and
editing skills vastly improved the manuscript.

And finally, for everyone at Adams Media, who made the
publication of this book possible.

Introduction

What is it that makes you happy and contented? Although happiness and life satisfaction are relatively new areas of psychology study, research suggests that it's not external objects like cars, luxury homes, and all the must-have gadgets money can buy that make people happy, but rather internal factors like good health and an optimistic, hopeful outlook. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, the eighteenth-century playwright, had nine requisites for a happy, contented life. First was health, in order to make work a pleasure. Then came wealth to support one's needs. Other factors in his list included strength to deal with difficulty, grace to confess and abandon sin, patience, charity, love, faith, and hope.

What does it take for you to feel that things are going well and that you are flourishing? These are ideas worth examining, for the answers reveal how you can have a happier life. If you are curious about your own level of happiness, take the following quiz.

QUIZ: How Happy Are You?

Answer the questions in this fun, short quiz to discover your level of happiness and contentment with your life. Just pick the answer that best aligns with your beliefs and lifestyle choices and find out if you are an optimist, a realist, or a pessimist.

  1. How satisfied are you with your personal relationships (that is, with family, friends, and spouse or significant other)?

    1. I am very satisfied with my personal relationships.

    2. I am neither satisfied nor dissatisfied but feel fortunate to have them.

    3. I am dissatisfied.

  2. If you could change your life in any way you wanted, how much of it would you change?

    1. Very little; I am happy with my life and the choices I've made.

    2. I would change several things if I saw that certain areas would work better once I'd made improvements.

    3. I would change a lot; nothing in my life seems to be working.

  3. Thinking about the level of stress in your life, how would you rate the level of stress you feel?

    1. Low; not much stresses me out.

    2. Medium; the stressors in my life are not constant but ebb and flow.

    3. High; most of the time it seems that my life is driven by high drama and unrelenting stress.

  4. Comparing your life to that of most other people, how would you describe yours?

    1. I am extremely fortunate.

    2. I am somewhat fortunate.

    3. My life is the pits.

  5. How much would you change your physical appearance if you had no monetary or other restriction?

    1. Nothing; I am content with the way I look.

    2. A little nip here and a tuck there could make a vast improvement.

    3. I'd change my whole appearance, get the works.

  6. How happy or satisfied are you in your choice of job or career?

    1. I am extremely satisfied with my choice for my life's work.

    2. I am somewhat satisfied, but I might be tempted to switch jobs in the future.

    3. I hate my job, and it's a drag having to show up for work every day.

  7. When you think about all the various aspects of your life, how would you rate your satisfaction with your life in general?

    1. I am highly satisfied with my life.

    2. I am moderately satisfied with my life but planning to make a few small changes to improve it.

    3. I am totally dissatisfied with my life; it sucks.

  8. Rate how difficult or easy it is for you to achieve personal goals.

    1. I frequently set goals, stay focused, and finish what I start; my goals are usually easy to reach.

    2. I sometimes set goals and although many are challenging, I strive to attain them.

    3. I resist setting goals since I never seem to attain them.

  9. Comparing your life to that of most other people, in general, how do you feel about yours?

    1. I feel extremely fortunate.

    2. I feel somewhat fortunate.

    3. I feel dissatisfied with my life and can't understand why nothing ever seems to go my way.

  10. Imagine your ideal life. How close do you feel you are to having your ideal?

    1. I am living life to the fullest and enjoying every minute of it, so I'd say that I'm close to having the perfect life.

    2. I'm still tweaking with areas of my life. Since there's always room for improvement, I'd say I am somewhat close to having my ideal life.

    3. My life at present is not close at all to what I'd like my ideal life to be.

SCORING:

So are you an optimist, a realist, or a pessimist?

For every
A
answer, give yourself 3 points.

For every
B
answer, give yourself 2 points.

For every
C
answer, give yourself 1 point.

21 to 30 points:
You are have an optimistic outlook and are generally satisfied with your life.

11 to 20 points:
You are realist and understand that the good things in your life balance out the bad. You believe the course of your life can change and that you hold the power to make it change.

1 to 10 points:
You tend toward pessimism and might be concerned that your life is not under your control but is driven by forces more powerful than you.

Based on your responses to the questions, you may discover that you already are an optimist and, if so, good for you. Use the ideas in this book to increase your happiness and spread the joy. If you are realist, think about incorporating many of the suggestions in this book to make your life more enjoyable. Finally, if you tend toward pessimism, understand that shifting away from negative thinking requires a consciousness of how you tend to immediately react to people, circumstances, and events in your life as well as a desire to see life more cheerfully, positively, and optimistically. Mine this book for ideas that appeal to you. Focus on making yourself happy first. Then, express goodwill to others.

1
Be Happy with Yourself
1 Choose to Think Happy Thoughts

If you want to find happiness and add years to your life, think happy thoughts. When you choose positive thoughts over negative ones, you are more likely to develop an optimistic outlook on life. According to happiness researchers such as Martin E.P. Seligman, director of the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania, and Barbara Fredrickson, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, positive people generally have higher levels of optimism and life satisfaction and live longer. In a BBC News report, Dr Seligman was quoted as saying that he believed that “we have compelling evidence that optimists and pessimists will differ markedly in how long they live.” Dr. Fredrickson has counseled that changing your mindset can change your body chemistry. She has stated that positive feelings literally can open the heart and mind. And there's more good news. Even if you aren't normally a happy person, thinking happy thoughts is a skill that can be learned. Work on being open, being an optimist, choosing to think positive thoughts, and seeing the proverbial glass half full rather than half empty. The next time you are in line at the post office and someone cuts in front of you or says something rude, resist the urge to respond with anger, which can clamp down your blood vessels and increase your blood pressure. Instead, return rudeness with kindness and respect. Keep that positive vibe going through your intentions and actions in whatever you do. The more frequently you choose to be happy, the more your effort will be strengthened. So don't fret; be happy and live longer.

2 Smile More Often

Force yourself to smile. Try it; it's not that difficult. Now hold it for a count of ten and deepen it. Mentally affirm, “I am happy, totally, blissfully happy.” Notice how your mood begins to shift. You can't help but feel a little lighter. Use your smile to start a happiness epidemic. Smile at everyone, everywhere. People are hardwired to respond to the facial expressions they encounter. If you glower at someone, that person will return a frown, but your smile will evoke a smile. You'll feel happier, too, because your body responds to your smile, even if you are faking the grin. So fake it until you genuinely feel happy. Once you know it works, do it often.

3 Set out a Bowl of Freshly Crushed Lavender

Whenever you have a bad day, feel exasperated, and struggle to get out of a foul mood, use some lavender to restore your serenity. Lavender is one of aromatherapy's most popular scents. Scents like lavender, citrus, rose, and sandalwood can trigger particular memories or experiences associated with them. That's because your olfactory nerve carries the scent straight to your brain. Use freshly crushed flowers set out in bowl, insert some reeds in a diffuser pot with lavender essential oil, light some lavender-scented candles, or put out some sachets of dried lavender. Allow the scent to lift your mood and remember that you never have to live a bad day over again.

4 Change One of Your Faults

Everyone has faults, but that doesn't mean you are stuck with yours. Pick one you would like to change or eliminate. Take time to do a little self-examination with complete honesty. Do you frequently gossip? Do you have a quick temper and a short fuse? Do you procrastinate and avoid facing problems until they snowball out of control? Or, are you still blaming others for the things that are wrong with your life? Choose to fix what you don't like about yourself. See goodness in yourself and others. Allow your inner strength and joy to be at the heart of who you are.

5 Don't Harbor a Grudge

Holding on to anger, resentment, and hostility hurts you, psychologically, emotionally, and physically. Even if the inciting incident happened only yesterday, the person you are mad at may not even remember the incident, so what's the point? Don't give over your power to have positivity in your life just to harbor a grudge. Find a way to move past it. Take an anger management class or read books offering specific strategies for dealing with anger issues. Take extremely good care of yourself, loving and respecting yourself enough to ensure that you don't flounder but rather flourish.

6 Cultivate Hope When Disaster Hits

If something isn't going well in your life — your child becomes ill, a car broadsides yours in the parking lot, you overdraw your bank account, or the taxi you are riding in on the way to the most important meeting of your life gets ensnarled in traffic — have hope that circumstances will shift and the situation will improve or be resolved. Find the courage to work to change what isn't good right now. Rather than allowing stress and anxiety to fill you with worry and stress, try to feel hopeful. It will be better for you emotionally and physically.

7 Praise Yourself

You praise your children, your friends, your coworkers, and your spouse whenever they accomplish something praiseworthy, so why not give yourself a one-minute praising for your own achievements? You're not being a braggart or egotistical when you acknowledge some wonderful task or breakthrough you made during your day. You undoubtedly work very hard and probably accomplish much that no one but you recognizes. If you finally played a complicated piano libretto all the way through or found an ingenious way to increase the family budget, tell yourself how wonderfully brilliant and accomplished you are. Bask in the glory of that moment. You deserve it.

8 Put a Picture of Yourself (as Younger, Thinner, Happier) on Your Desk

Gaze at an image of yourself looking fabulous. It can move a mountain of negative thought, boost your self-esteem, and make you feel good. Find a picture of yourself when you felt most happy and alive. Frame it and put it where you can easily see it. You have pictures, but none that are that great? No problem. Use graphics painting programs or digital image tools to rework your scanned photo or digital image. Erase some of those wrinkles, add some hair, shift the curves, and turn back the clock. Have fun creating a fabulous-looking new you. Gaze at the photo when you need a little dose of happiness. Let it spark some good vibes.

9 Quiet Your Mind Before Starting Your Day

Focus on your thinking at the start of every day. Are your thoughts already racing through your to-do list? Are they jumping from one subject to another through thought associations? Did a troubling dream leave you anxious or angry or fearful upon awakening? If you answered yes to any of those questions, spend ten minutes before you even get out of bed doing a mental check-in. Take deep breaths and be aware of your entire body. Feel anchored and centered in it. Quiet your mind. Think positive thoughts. Dial out the emotions of bad dreams and the anxieties associated with the day ahead. Relax into peace. The world can wait for ten minutes.

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